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Why my penis is sore after sex

by | Health & Wellness

May 2, 2024

Quite a number of men complain that their penises feel sore after sex. They describe it as an uncomfortable sensation that may be burning or just plain painful. With some men, this happens too few times to be given any real attention. But with others, it tends to happen way too often, forcing them to seek answers. In this article, we tell you why your penis is most likely sore after sex.

1. The penile skin is thinner than the skin on other parts of your body

The skin around your penis is quite thin. Do the comparison yourself. When your penis is flaccid, pull at the skin around there. Notice how thin it is and how it snaps back almost immediately? Now, pinch at the skin someplace else on your body. Preferably someplace where hair grows, like your forearm. 

Notice how the skin there is much thicker and harder to pull?

The skin around the penis is thin for a reason: it is supposed to allow the transmission of nerve impulses really fast, and to transmit impulses, it has to be able to capture them in the first place. The thinness of your penile skin allows it to pick up signals.

This is one chief reason why the penis is almost always prone to being sore. Even in the most gentle scenarios, some men will report being sore. In our subsequent article, we will talk about what to do to keep your penis from feeling sore whenever you have sex. 

In the meantime, know that the skin is thin. 

2. Poorly done foreplay

When foreplay is poorly done, there is bound to be a feeling of soreness. This feeling of soreness is due to micro cuts you cannot even see with your eyes except, perhaps when you look very keenly. 

The fact that you cannot see them doesn’t mean they are not there. 

When a woman cannot give a blow job properly, some parts of her teeth come in contact with the skin around the penis. This is usually very subtle in some women, but the contact scrapes off the skin and leaves nerves jarred, hence the feeling of soreness. 

It helps that we show our women how to give blow jobs properly. One of the rules every woman should know is that teeth do not belong anywhere around a blow job. Teeth should be away just as pins should be away from a vagina. 

3. Too long foreplay

Even though the foreplay may not be poorly done, if it is done too long, it may hurt the penis. 

I do not want to go all anatomy on you right now, so let me explain how this works by painting a real life scenario. 

Imagine rubbing cream on your skin for, say, a couple of seconds. It is going to feel good, isn’t it?

Now, imagine doing the same thing for two hours at a stretch. Imagine rubbing cream for two hours at a stretch. What do you think is going to happen to your skin? Of course, you will feel your skin burning. 

This is because the duration of that steady and constant swiping is able to generate enough friction to peel off the epithelial layer of your skin. 

Your skin is covered in epithelium: these are cells that cover surfaces on your body. They can easily be yanked off if one is exposed to several hours of movements. 

Read: Pearly Penile Papules (PPP): Should You Avoid Your Partner After Diagnosis?

4. A first stroke without proper lubrication

A first stroke without proper lubrication is a disaster for both the man and the woman. This is because sex shouldn’t happen without surfaces properly lubricated. 

The first couple of strokes must not happen when your woman is not wet. This is going to hurt her and is going to hurt you. 

This is especially true if you keep going despite the warning signs that your partner may not be wet enough. Believe it or not, a lot of guys ignore these warning signs and continue to do what they have in mind. This should not be you. 

5. Your woman isn’t shaved

As you must already know, hair is brittle. And hair is able to injure smooth surfaces. Although some guys like it when their woman is not shaved, other guys complain that the hair hurts them.  

In a small survey we conducted amongst our readers, we saw that more than half of the men admitted that when their woman wasn’t shaved, it hurt them. 

Others agreed that one of the worst periods of soreness came around the time when the woman was just germinating hair again. The first two to three days after the shave, that is. 

Some positions hurt more than others when the woman was shaved. The doggy position seemed to be especially sore to the man 

Jason described his penis being on fire two to three days after his wife had shaved. “It felt like rubbing sand over my penis.”

6. Condom reactions

The truth is, condoms are not always a great idea for some people. Especially ones who have some form of reaction to certain condoms. Especially latex condoms. These people report some kind of itching and burning. 

It was worse when they used a condom that wasn’t thier size. That is to say, a condom that is too tight. 

It is also quite bad when they have sex with a condom they react to, whilst using a lubricant they react to. People have lubricant reactions too!

7. You haven’t shaved either

The blame does not only go to the woman when it comes to shaving. The blame goes to the man too. If a man does not shave, it is likely he will feel sore. 

This kind of soreness is usually felt at the base of the penis. 

Men also feel it when they have sex immediately or a few days after shaving. It burns and feels as though the sex should not continue. 

Summary

Soreness of the penis during sex is mostly a mechanical thing and has little to do with STI’s.

By QuietYearning Editors

The QuietYearning Team covers everything from relationships to lifestyle to parenting and more. Its team of experts provides in-depth analysis that helps you understand complex topics on relationships.

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