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Why Don’t I Have a Girlfriend?

by | Love and Romance

Feb 25, 2022

There is no shortage of advice on how to get a girlfriend on the internet. Relationship experts often consider the subject. Therapists and counselors offer some of their best guidance.

You’re at a work party. All your colleagues are there, and you noticed something. They all have their girlfriends by their side and are obviously having a great time. A wave of loneliness washes over you, and you wonder, ‘Why don’t I have a girlfriend?’

Why Does it Matter?

You feel lonely and need to be romantically involved with someone. 

What Would You Do?

Imagine this Scenario: Fred was just promoted in his place of work some months ago. He traveled back home to celebrate his achievement. His mother and father were there. 

While they were having drinks and eating in the dining, Fred’s mother jokingly asked him about his girlfriend. 

“I don’t have one,” He said, and everyone laughed. 

Amidst the laughter, Fred knew his mother was serious. She wanted him to have a girlfriend. He was grown now, a web developer working in a tech company. 

Fred wonders why he doesn’t have a girlfriend. He has met many beautiful women he would want to be with, but these women turn him down for some reason. 

Aisha, for example, tells him that she sees him as a brother. And Halima stops responding to his texts the moment he tells her about his romantic interest in her. 

If you were Fred, what would you do?

Do You Think Something Is Wrong with You?

You may feel like something is wrong with you because you don’t have a girlfriend. This is false. You’re an amazing person whether you have a girlfriend or not. 

Accept this. 

Are You Meeting Many Women?

Even though women can be as beautiful as angels, girlfriends don’t fall from the skies. You will not wake up to find a girl in a package at your doorstep. 

Perhaps you do not have a girlfriend because you’re not meeting many women. 

Beautiful women are everywhere. You just have to step out to meet them. If you’re a socially awkward person, this may be a bit difficult for you, but you should try.

Visit art galleries and music festivals. Go to concerts. Go to bars and restaurants. There is a number of places to find beautiful women, even wife material.

Also, text women on your social media. Social media is a great place to meet potential girlfriends. Use it to your benefit. 

Are You a Good Listener?

Everyone wants to be listened to. When people listen to us, we feel important and safe and find that it becomes easy to talk to them. 

Perhaps the reason you don’t have a girlfriend is that you don’t listen enough. 

When you’re around women you like, try as much as you can to listen to them. Listen to even the little details that you think are unimportant. 

This will make them feel safe around you and so tilt towards you in a romantic way. 

Are You Trustworthy?

No one wants to be hurt. This is why many women don’t want to be involved with men who are not trustworthy. 

Perhaps you don’t give women around you a reason to trust you. Try as much as you can to keep to your words. When you say something, do it. 

You Never Make Your Intentions Known

Women cannot read a person’s mind. If you like a woman, let her know about it. Use body cues first, and then say it in plain words. Learn how to use humor. 

Don’t settle for just anyone as a girlfriend.

Many guys without a girlfriend want one. And the desire to get a girlfriend sometimes push them to a point where they don’t care who they end up with. 

It’s understandable that you just want to feel wanted by a woman. But if you’re not careful, you’ll get the wrong woman. Some women will make you feel wanted and then use you, and you’ll end up regretting and even feeling lonelier than ever. 

Action Plan

How can I meet more women? How can I make my intentions known?

Photo by Anaya Katlego on Unsplash

By Martin Corden

Martin Corden is a certified relationship expert and a songwriter from Australia. He loves researching and writing. Martin loves finding new ways to improve and inspires others to be their best version and work together towards it. Martin has a wide range of intellectual and artistic interests.

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