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Why Don’t I Have a Boyfriend?

by | Love and Romance

May 15, 2022

Are you wondering why you don’t have a boyfriend? All of that can change the moment you set your eyes on the boy of your dreams, but first, let’s consider why it matters and what you would do if someone had a similar situation. Next, we will consider areas you can work on to change things.

Why Does it Matter?

You feel lonely sometimes and wish you were involved with someone in a romantic way

What Would You Do?

Imagine this scenario: Victoria is a 5’8 ft tall woman who lives alone in a small town. She graduated from college months ago and now works as a sales manager in a marketing company. 

Victoria knows she is very beautiful. At least three men approach her every week. These men, she can tell, do not want to be just friends with her. 

But for some reason, she does not find many of them good enough to be her boyfriend. She has only found a few to be potentially good boyfriends: Eric, for example, a medical doctor in a small clinic not far away from where Victoria works. 

Victoria liked him very much. Sometimes, she even pictured herself with him, a thing. Like that time at the mall when he smiled at her, she imagined being called his girlfriend. 

But it never happened, just as with the previous men who Victoria found attractive. Eric stopped calling her all of a sudden, and his texts became slow and short. 

Victoria wonders what is happening. She asks herself, “Why don’t I have a boyfriend?”

If you were Victoria, what would you do?

How am I dressed? 

Men are visual people. They love what they see. If you don’t have a boyfriend, there’s a big chance it’s because of how you appear. Work on your appearance. Wear amazing clothes. Wear makeup if you want. 

Realize that a bright smile is an important part of your dress code. Wear a smile always. Do not frown too much. 

Do I smell nice? You should try to smell nice always. A person who doesn’t smell good will push others away. 

A man who meets you for the first time might stick around a while even if you don’t exactly smell nice, but he will leave sooner or later. Use good perfumes. Brush your teeth.

Read: Best Places to Meet Genuine Guys

Maybe You’re Not Meeting Enough Men

It’s possible that you don’t have a boyfriend because you don’t meet enough men. Perhaps you don’t respond to texts enough or accept to go on dates. 

Men do not fall from the skies. You have to meet them, and you have to choose which ones you will give your time and attention to. When you meet new men, try as much as you can to be nice to them. 

Don’t snap at them or act in a disrespectful way. Men love to be respected, and they will willingly be with a woman who respects them. 

How’s Your Communication?

We should all learn the art of communicating. People who know how to communicate are fun to have around. Work on how much you listen. 

Be attentive when a person is talking, only coming in when they are done talking. This makes it easier to talk to you. 

Also, do not just expect the men you meet to keep the conversation going all the time. Sometimes, you should also keep the conversation going. 

Action Plan

How can I communicate better? How can I listen more?

Photo by Kinga Cichewicz on Unsplash

By Sara Leandro

Sara Leandro is a certified health coach who helps others feel their best through individualized lifestyle changes that meet their unique needs and health goals. She covers topics ranging from health and productivity to relationships.

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