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What To Do When Your Boyfriend Says He Needs Space

by | Meeting People, Moving On

May 8, 2020

If your boyfriend tells you he needs space, it can be an overwhelming and confusing experience. Feeling anxious and wondering what this means for your relationship is natural.

In this post, we will explore practical steps you can take to navigate this situation and understand why your partner might need space. We’ll also provide tips on communicating effectively and maintaining a healthy relationship during this time.

Is he serious about it?

If your boyfriend has asked for space, there are several signs to look for that can help you gauge his level of commitment to this decision. For example, if he is clear and direct in his communication about needing space and takes concrete steps to create distance, it may indicate that he is serious.

Also, if he remains consistent in his behavior over time and is not easily swayed by your attempts to change his mind, this may be another sign that he is serious about taking space.

However, the best way to know is to have an open and honest conversation about his feelings and intentions.

Read: 15 Powerful Songs About Breakup

Possible reasons a guy may need space 

  • It could be that he found someone he thinks is better than you.
  • Maybe he no longer finds you to be as great as he once thought you were
  • He wants to be independent.
  • It could be that he is no longer interested.
  • He doubts his love for you.
  • Maybe he’s going through tough times.

Many women cringe at hearing this. Most had a hunch that the “I need space” was close to breaking up. But instead of taking the initiative, they waited and accepted it like that by saying “okay” as a response to that statement.

Never give in to that, woman; you can do better, especially if you really want to stand a chance of winning his heart back. 

Read: How to Get Over a Breakup Fast

What you can do

  1. Respect his need for space: Honor his request for space and give him the time and distance he needs. Do not bombard him with calls, texts, or visits during this time.
  2. Communicate effectively: While giving your partner space is a good idea, it’s also good to maintain open and honest communication. Make sure you both clearly understand what taking space means and how long it will last.
  3. Do not neglect yourself: Use this time to care for yourself and engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. This will not only help you feel better, but it can also help improve the health of your relationship in the long run.
  4. Seek support: It’s okay to lean on your loved ones or a therapist for support. Talking to someone can help you process your feelings and gain perspective.

Remember, taking space does not necessarily mean the end of your relationship. It can be an opportunity for both of you to reflect, grow, and come back together stronger.

If he chooses to break up after giving him some space, it’s better now than later. Putting in so much effort to make him stay may likely yield results, but that wouldn’t make him love you like before. A lot of things will change. So it’s best to let him go.

It is possible that your boyfriend may come back to you on his own, expressing regret and asking for a second chance. If this happens, you will need to make a decision about whether or not to let him back into your life. If he is sincerely seeking your forgiveness and wants to make things right, it is a sign that he really wants to stay this time around. 

Read: How to Get Back to Dating After a Bad Breakup

Bottom Line 

It is very demeaning for a woman to force a man to stay in her life. This could be an opportunity for you to meet someone better. And you discover what you have been missing all this while.

Good luck!

By Rachael Ukpebor

Rachael Ukpebor is an Editorial Assistant for Whatsdalatest. She graduated with honours from the University of Benin with a degree in Sociology and Anthropology. She covers beauty, relationship, and lifestyle topics at WDS, everything from best skincare and makeup hacks, to relationships. Her favourite music is Lovin' You by Minnie Riperton.

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