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What to do when he begins to lose interest

by | Love

Apr 11, 2024

Interest wanes every now and then in most relationships, even healthy ones. This is because interest is fickle. It comes and it goes and depends a lot on the conditions at that moment. I’ll explain this later on in this article as I go on to show you what to do when he begins to lose interest in the relationship. 

1. Is it in your head?

This is usually one of the most effective first questions to ask yourself when you think he is losing interest. And you have got to be very honest with your answer. 

Is it in your head?

The answer is yes if:

He has given you no actual reasons to doubt his interest:

That is to say, he has not given you reason to doubt his interest in you and the relationship. You just have a weird fear. This is common in women who might have attachment issues. Fix these attachments problems somehow and watch as all your fears fade away. 

Your feeling is a trauma response:

There are times when your feeling is as a result of trauma or fear. Especially if you have been in a relationship that didn’t last long enough because he had lost interest in you. It becomes more likely for you to carry this baggage into your new relationship. 

He is not losing interest. It is in your head. 

In subsequent articles, we will be showing you how to let go of the baggage of past relationships when you enter into a new one. 

Read: Signs That He is Losing Interest

2. What is he losing interest in?

This is another big question. 

You see, there are two phases of losing interest. In the first phase, the man loses interest in his woman. She no longer appeals to him. She does not even strike him as one who has a great sex appeal. She is just there, now something like a friend. 

After that, he begins to lose interest in the relationship.  

Men don’t often lose interest in a relationship all of a sudden. They lose interest in the woman first and the relationship pays for it. 

Is your man losing interest in you, or has he already begun to lose interest in the relationship? Your answer is going to come a long way when trying to fix things. 

If he is losing interest in you, it becomes an easier problem to fix. All you have to do is make changes to your behavior, and that’s all. 

3. Fix any issues that breed resentment

Resentment eats at interest so much faster than anything else most relationships will be faced with. This is because resentment is rather silent. No one ever knows it’s really there, but it is, and it makes the relationship sour from the inside out. 

If you have some resentment towards your partner, or they have some towards you, it may be just why the relationship isn’t going the way it should. 

Fix these issues. You may have to bruise your pride and apologize. Sometimes, this is all it takes to fix a man who’s losing interest. 

4. Get more feminine 

Interest is a fickle thing that is majorly just based off the polarity between sexes. Men are interested in women and women are interested in men because these two exist on either side of the sexuality spectrum. 

If you have come to be more masculine than you should, it is surely going to affect your relationship. It is going to make him begin to lose interest in you from a subconscious level

So, get your game back. Try as hard as you can to be feminine again. You should speak with grace and walk with poise, put on clothes that make him look at you, and swoon in lust again. 

This is how it used to be done decades and centuries ago. Don’t think for a second that losing interest is peculiar to just us. It’s been around for a while. 

5. Go no contact

Love is not interest. This is something a lot of us have to come to understand. Whilst love grows where there is so much comfort, attraction grows where there is space. It is why we often get “tired” of someone when we see them too often. 

We might love the said person very much but still cannot help but feel very uneasy around them. 

Think about your siblings, for example—the younger ones who seem to annoy you very much. You love them, yes. But there are times when you would rather not be around them. 

It sort of works the same way with attraction and interest. 

It is possible that your man is losing interest in you because he is seeing or hearing from you too much, and this is choking his attraction towards you. 

The best you can do to fix this problem is to go no contact. Don’t contact your man for some time. Let him feel your absence. 

In that absence, I can assure you that a lot of attraction is going to build up again. One of the rules for no contact is this: don’t contact your man except he contacts you first. 

It takes around 5 days on average to work. So whilst you may miss your man very much, don’t give in too early.

6. Jealousy to the rescue

Jealousy can also be such a great tool to get your man attracted and interested in you again. When someone is jealous of you, they tend to subconsciously exaggerate your value. 

You subconsciously become one of the most valuable things and valuable people they know and hang around. 

You immediately begin to seem more attractive to them. 


Men lose attraction and interest in their women for a lot of reasons. If your man has lost interest in you, it may be time to step up your game to win him back. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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