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What Does it Mean When He Smiles Flirtatiously?

by | Love and Romance

Jun 21, 2024

When Jumoke first moved to the UK, she hung in an open field in the neighborhood quite a lot. Especially early in the evenings, when the air was cold and the birds chirped loudly. It was during one of her chilling sessions that she noticed a guy afar off, smiling at her flirtatiously. She had seen him before today but didn’t really pay much attention until now. She smiled in response and walked away, only to return the following day to see him still smiling. This time, he walked over to her and introduced himself. The smile still stayed on his face. Jumoke has been thinking: what does it mean when a guy smiles flirtatiously?

1. He is just being nice

Sometimes, a guy will smile flirtatiously at a woman in his own way of just being nice. I have seen this quite a number of times. This is especially true if he senses her unease. Or if he just wants to tease her. 

Sometimes, guys can be so nice they will try to draw you into safety. 

Elena tells us she never knew this until she began to hang around her cousins a lot. 

“Guys are nice, actually,” She says. “They’re funny too. Sometimes, they just flirt with a smile for the sake of being nice or pulling you into their lives. It is so fun to watch.”

2. He is shy

Shy guys who want to approach you usually try all they can to make the interaction less awkward. One of their go-to options is smiling flirtatiously. 

Their smile is a way of saying: “Hey, I just smiled to let you know I am right here and might come to you anytime from now.”

Does it work? I will say yes. It does work. It can make the woman feel easier. I will pick this as my bet in Jumoke’s scenario. 

Read: How to Flirt with Compliments

3. He likes you as a friend

A guy may smile at you flirtatiously as his way of showing you that he likes you as a friend

Guys communicate in strange ways. Sometimes, something you can promise yourself to be is a beaming green light, but it is really not green. Or at least it is not green in the way you want. 

Him smiling at you flirtatiously may be a way of showing you that he wants to be your friend. 

4. He likes you romantically

A man smiling at you flirtatiously may also be a way of showing you that he likes you in a romantic way. 

This is the most common situation, and it is almost always the case. I suspect this is also a likely possibility for Jumoke. 

Guys can often begin the interaction phase by smiling hard. 

5. He wants to rizz you

He may also smile at you flirtatiously if he wants to rizz you up. This means he doesn’t want to be your friend. He also doesn’t want to be with you romantically. He is doing it for the fun of it. 

Guys do it, too. It helps with their self-esteem!


A guy may smile at you flirtatiously for many reasons. You shouldn’t add a tag until he makes it clear. 

By Ubong

Ubong Johnson is a medic, writer, and editor whose writings explore the complexities of human interactions. He has been published on The Healing Muse, a journal by Upstate Medical University, Blood and Thunder, a journal from Oklahoma University Medical College, and other journals of humanities. Ubong lives in Lagos and is currently undergoing training as a behavioral psychologist.

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