Have you ever wondered what it feels like to make love to a woman, your woman? To actually make love? Maybe you do, maybe you don’t. Here are four stories of four people who do know what it feels like to really make love. These stories should inspire you to chase love-making from here on.
Eddie
I will tell you this for sure: it is not just sex. Everyone has sex. And everyone knows what sex should be. But love making is a little more complex. While sex only focuses on the body, love making focuses on the mind and the body. However, there is a shift towards the mind’s pleasure here.
Making love to a woman is showing affection to her body with yours. Every time I made love to a woman, one thing stood out: I had been in love with her. I have never been able to make love to a woman I did not love. This is why attraction is such a powerful and beautiful thing.
Love making begins when you are consumed with attraction. When you get into a room with a woman you love that deeply, you can feel your heart throbbing. You can feel your desires raging. Not a desire for sex. But a desire to be glued to someone.
You can barely keep yourself from reaching forward and touching them. When you put your lips on theirs, you can barely keep your eyes open. I used to see this a lot in movies and wondered why eyes had to be shut, not until I found lovemaking, too.
Your eyes stay shut because you are focused on what your mind feels more than what your body feels. During love-making, it is your mind that takes the lead.
Somehow, you know when it is the right time to put your arms around them. You know when you should rub their skin sensually. You just know what to do. And in that moment, everything feels like the perfect move.
When you are truly making love, there are only going to be perfect moves. There can be bad sex, but I don’t think there is such a thing as bad love-making.
After the kiss comes the foreplay. This time, you chase after your partner’s pleasure like it is the most important thing to you. And quite frankly, it should be. It really should.
You feel your own body on its toes. You feel all your hair standing erect. As your woman whimpers, as she moves to your touches, you find yourself loving her more. You find yourself going deeper and deeper into your own emotions.
Lovemaking feels like failing into something deep, into a world where only you and your partner exist—been there a lot of times to know that. If you hang on long enough, you are going to arrive at a sensual orgasm with your partner.
Every time I have made love with my woman, her body has responded by rewarding me with an orgasm. It really is beautiful.
Read: How to Make Sex More Fun and Engaging
Ubong
How does it feel to make love to a woman? Quite frankly, the only way I can describe it is this: it feels like making every wish you have towards your partner’s sexual pleasure come true.
When you love someone, trust me, you will become surrounded by wishes. You will wish to see them in certain clothes. You will wish for moments when it can be just you both doing the most beautiful things.
You will wish for their orgasms. You will wish for them to understand your body, too. You will wish and wish.
When you make love, those wishes come true. It is like exploring a vast world of ideas.
The first time I actually made love to a woman, I had spent the night thinking about her. I thought about the way she walked. I thought about what she would look like with all her clothes off. I thought about how I would make her whimper.
When I saw her without clothes for the first time, I smiled because she looked so hot. She was no doubt the hottest thing I had ever seen. At least to me in that moment. I showed this affection for her body in the way I glided my hands over her thighs. I paid attention to her face. I looked at her lips.
When we merged lips, I felt warmth around my body. It was almost like something had hugged me. I kissed her for a long time. It was such a long and deep kiss. I could tell that she loved it. Heck, I loved it too. I loved every moment of that session.
I remember that she helped me take off my clothes. I felt vulnerable. But for some reason, I didn’t mind. Before then, I had been obsessed about the bad side of my body, about the scar that sat on my chest.
She rubbed at this scar and kissed me again. This was when another thing about making love to a woman began to make sense to me.
Making love is vulnerability. You feel the most vulnerable emotions. You can almost put a hand in your own chest and pull out your heart. Haha.
It is even better when actual penetration happens. Penetration is very hard to describe to someone who hasn’t had sex before. But it is all shades of amazing, I assure you.
You can check out this article to read up on what penetration feels like.
That night, she held me close. As I stroked her in the missionary position, I felt myself zone into someplace very beautiful.
Her moans became the most beautiful thing I had ever heard. I just kept smiling down at her. We were in a room, but I was in a world of my own. A world where only both of us existed.
Love making with a woman puts you in your own space.
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Blake
Uhhhm. How does it feel to make love to a woman? There is no way I can desire this without making it all about poetry.
You see, I am a poet, and I have come to see poetry to be the language of love.
So, I will describe making love like writing poetry. To make a good poem, one of the first things a poet must do is allow himself to feel an emotion.
It is the same way with love. To really make love, one must leave themselves, so that their minds are able to enter into a place of vulnerability.
Upon the welling of an emotion, the poet must explore this emotion. It is in exploring an emotion that the poet understands the emotion enough for him to make a piece out of it.
With love, it is no different. When we are consumed in genuine desire for our partners, such that we decide it will be great to have sex with them, we come to explore this emotion by learning about their bodies.
It is the process, or rather, the act, of learning the art and workings of a person’s body that makes love possible.
When you are making love to a woman, you are saying: “Hey, I really do want to learn how your body works. I also want you to learn how my body works, too.”
There is a saying that the poem writes the writer just the way the writer writes the poem. I think this is true and can be applied to sex as well. The lover is being made love to as he makes love to his woman.
Making love with a woman will mean learning about her body and seeking its pleasure. You cannot say you have made love with someone when you have barely known their body.
When you don’t know where the clitoris is, nor can you find those spots on their body that make them very aroused.
When I make love to a woman, I make sure my hands are everywhere on her body. I understand that, at this moment, her body is ours. That is to say, I own it, too, because she lets me have it.
I make sure I am rubbing, paying attention to her face or her voice. Her voice will always tell me what she feels, and in that moment, I know what to keep doing or what I should stop doing.
When she whimpers, for example, I can tell it is because she feels an intense emotion. When she grunts, I can tell that she feels pain, and as a result, I will be sure not to repeat the moves that caused the pain.
That is just how lovemaking works for me. And to be fair, it is such a beautiful thing.
Every man should learn to love their partner’s body by exploring it. I feel like we owe them more bodily exploration. Most women I have talked to about sexual desire have told me that their number one wish has been a man who was a little more interested in learning and pleasing their bodies.
One such story stood out. She was a girl in her twenties. When I asked what she wished men did better, she giggled and said:
“I wish they actually did pay attention. The thing is, men are not bad at sex. They’re just bad at paying attention. If a man learns to pay attention, he will have the best love experience with his woman. I can assure all men of this.”
I don’t think she is bluffing.
Read: How to Be More Attentive to Your Woman During Sex
Hakeem
How does it feel to make love with a woman?
Uhm. I thought long and hard about this. It is such a difficult question to answer because there are many ways to put this.Making love to a woman can feel like being loved. Especially if she is a woman who responds to your touches in ways that sort of guide you around her body.
This has happened to me a lot of times. With my ex, lovemaking felt like being loved. She would dig her fingers into my back. She would rub at my nipples, all the while staring into my eyes. It always felt like she was staring into my soul.
Love-making can also feel like being drawn into a place where you have to discover yourselves. I believe that love is some kind of discovery, whether you are being loved on a date or being loved in a bedroom. One thing will always stand out: you will discover something.
On a date, you find out what your partner likes and what they dislike. But in a bedroom, when you make love with your woman? It feels like you are discovering her body afresh. It feels like you have never seen another woman’s body before. It feels like searching her body for the first time every time.
You can tell which parts of her body will make her whimper; you can tell which parts of her body will make her cling closer to you.
It is such a love-empowering discovery. As you know your woman’s body more, you come to see how beautiful love can really be.
In all, I will say making love to a woman feels like the deepest conversation you have ever had. There are going to be verbal elements when your woman tells you to fuck her silly. There are going to be nonverbal but voice elements, like when she moans. When she lets you know you are hitting all her right spots.
And there are going to be moments she just speaks to you with her body. With her hands as they dig into your skin. With her face, as she creases her looks. Her vagina will also talk to you. For real. The vagina can talk, haha.
It can clench itself. Make you feel amazing. Making love with a woman is like talking to her.
Summary
Making love to a woman is intense and beautiful.
