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What does Anal Sex Feel Like?

by | Sensual Intimacy

Jul 3, 2023

Straight men often wonder what it feels like to have insertive anal sex, and women often want to know if it hurts as much as they say. This has interested us for some time, and so we took to the field and conducted some research. We interviewed 35 men and 35 women who have had anal sex in the past three months, and this is what they agreed anal sex feels like

What Anal Sex Feels Like? | For Women

1. I will be honest. The first time hurt really bad. I thought I was going to scream — Tina 

Tina’s opinion is common among people who have anal sex for the first time. Anxiety makes them tighten their perineal muscles, and this narrows the entrance, producing pain. 

It does not always have to be painful. The right amount of lubrication can also contribute to making it less painful. 

2. It felt like I was ‘full.’ I will not say it was painful. I will only say it was uncomfortable — Bola 

Of course, you may expect anal sex to be uncomfortable, as it is something you have not tried before. There is a big chance you will eventually get used to it. And when you do, you may come to enjoy it. 

It is best to use anal plugs for a while before going to actual penetration. Anal plugs get you a bit more used to having something up your ass. 

They can also help you get orgasms.

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3. One word: Intense! — Irina

Irina describes anal sex in a way that is common with many women. Of the 35 women we interviewed, 19 agreed anal sex was pretty intense. 

They said they didn’t know what was coming, and that made the sex even better. 

Irina went on to say: “Not knowing when it is going to hit you makes things even more intense. I don’t know how to put this. But you stumble into a realization that you may actually enjoy this.” 

4. Like Vaginal Sex, Weirdly — Lisa

Lisa said she had hoped that anal sex would be among her most painful experiences but was surprised at how painless it was. I probed a little and found that it was this way for her because she had found ways to calm herself down and relax her muscles. 

Her experience goes to show that you can experience painless anal sex if you deal with your anxiety (it goes away over time) and allow yourself to relax. 

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5. More Orgasms— Juan

Juan agreed that she had more orgasms whenever she had anal sex. She described the orgasms as coming from a place of pelvic fullness. 

“Your pelvis feels so full you just cannot help it when an orgasm hits you.”

Juan also agreed that sticking anal plugs in or having a finger in their ass when receiving a penis in their vagina went a long way in making orgasms come faster. 

In all, she said it was pretty amazing. 

6. Anal Sex Hurts Really Good — Halima 

Halima’s feelings about vaginal sex just had to appear here because of how funny the editors found it. It is the perfect paradoxical statement that describes how anal sex feels for women who are trying it out for the first time. 

It tends to hurt really well—something like peeling off a healing wound. Of course, there is pain. But it is the kind of pain that buries a deep feeling of pleasure.

“How better can it get?” Halima asked. “I don’t think anything is better than some pleasurable moment that also hurts you. It feels like drinking champagne.”

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What Anal Sex Feels Like? | For men

Men who performed insertive anal sex on their partners had this to say about how it felt: 

1. Felt Good, but I don’t think I want to try it again — Jake 

I find this answer pretty interesting because most men agreed with Jake. They agreed it was great but said never to try it again. Why? Well, most thought it was just weird. 

And I can almost tell why anyone would think that. But the truth is, anal sex does not have to be weird or anything. It can be something even men enjoy. I know this for sure.

2. Anal sex sure feels a lot tighter, and weirdly, I love it so much! — Koffi 

Koffi agrees that anal sex is tighter, and in many ways, it is. Compared to the vagina, the ass is a bit less elastic. It is usually not going to stretch so much, so there is a big chance sex there is going to feel tighter. 

You may feel ‘full’ as well. Or like you are filling something up. Remember that women say they feel pretty full whenever they have anal sex? Then it makes sense for men to feel the same way as well. 

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3. It is not much different from vaginal sex. Plus, I bond with my partner more — Nambog 

Nambog struck an interesting point. So, I probed further.

“How exactly does it help you bond more with your partner?” 

He went on to describe how one needs calculated carefulness to perform anal sex. 

“You just have to listen to her and her body and make it teamwork. Sex feels a lot better when it is teamwork.”

For sure, sex does feel better when it is teamwork. So, there is a chance you may feel more intimate when you have one.

4. I love that she gets many orgasms when we have those — Jamal

Jamal agrees that he is intrigued by anal sex because of how easy it is to give his woman an orgasm when they both decide to do anal. 

“I will say it is great.” He said. “The feel is great, although a part of me thinks it is weird and makes me less straight. But I totally love it because of how good it makes my partner feel. 

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Anal sex is becoming more common, even amongst straight people. Just maybe you will have to try it sometime.

By Martin Corden

Martin Corden is a certified relationship expert and a songwriter from Australia. He loves researching and writing. Martin loves finding new ways to improve and inspires others to be their best version and work together towards it. Martin has a wide range of intellectual and artistic interests.

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