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8 Ways to Tell if a Girl Is Messing with You

by | Love

Feb 28, 2024

Ever wondered what was really going on in your woman’s head? If she was genuine about you both or just playing fetch with your head? Well, every man comes to that point where he must stop just going with the flow. Where he must question the flow. In this article, we help you question the flow. We show you some signs she is messing with your head

1. She mocks her exes

This is one of the biggest signs out there that she is messing with your head. 

If a woman makes comments that suggest to you that she has been messing with her exes, you should not overlook them.  

I like to tell my friends that people who mess with other people tell on themselves without even being boxed. 

If you listen enough, she will tell on herself. 

If she messed with her ex, chances are, she is going to mess with you too. 

This is because these habits do not die often and easily. One who messes with others will sooner or later mess with you. The conditions just have to be right. And I’ll tell you this for free: The day conditions are right; she is going to mess with you, too. 

Conditions will be right the day you lose your masculine frame. I wish a lot of guys realized that the only reason a woman inclined to hurt others hasn’t hurt them yet is because they have a strong masculine frame. 

Once that frame goes away, she is going to hurt you. 

2. She demands too much access to your emotions, even when she gives little

It is such a red flag when a woman demands too much access to your emotions when she does not give even a quarter of what she demands. 

One of the biggest stories of love that went sour is that of Samson and a woman called Delilah. 

It is often looked at in a religious way, but that story applies to almost all one-sided relationships. 

So, Sampson is a nice guy who loves his woman and wants to see her happy. This drives him to expose the secret of his power to her. This choice turns out to be the very one that costs him his life. 

A lot of men are like this. They are unable to see that a woman’s demands often tell whether or not she is playing with your head. 

A demand that is too unreal is a big flag. 

“I just wish you loved me more.”

“I just wish you spoke to me more about what bothers you.”

These things may sound cute. 

But don’t give in if they come from a woman who shows no interest in doing the same for you.  

Read: Signs She is Pretending to Love You

3. She is a narcissist

You can know for sure that she is playing with your head if she is a narcissist. 

Narcissistic people have the tendency to use others for fun. 

She does it because it makes her happy. 

It will make her even happier if you show signs that her messing with you is getting into your head. 

With narcissistic people, the more hurt you express, the harder they try to mess you up. I have been there before. It is not a nice place to be. 

4. Every argument ends with her crying

Women have mastered the act of deflecting by using tears. 

A woman who is going to use your head, or who is even doing so at the moment, is going to cry a lot when she figures out she is losing in on something. 

She is going to cry the moment you call her bullshit. 

She is going to cry the moment you get too close to uncovering her ruse. 

The list goes on and on. But know this: crying too much and too often is almost always a sign that she is playing with your head. 

5. She dislikes your friends

People who mess with others do so using the power of isolation. 

Believe me, it is almost impossible to manipulate and mess with someone who has a strong sense of community. 

A woman knows this. So. If she wants to mess with you, she is going to have to remove your friends from the picture so that you are a stand-alone target. 

If she fails to achieve this by talking you out of friendship, she is going to hate your friends. 

There will often be no concrete reasons. 

“Why do you dislike my friends so much?”

“I don’t know. I just have a very weird feeling about them. I don’t like them. I don’t.”

What she means to say is: “Your friends are keeping me from manipulating the heck out of you.”

Read: Signs She’s Faking an Orgasm

6. Your friends don’t like her

It goes both ways. Whilst you, who is in the center of all that affection, who is blinded by what you believe to be love, fail to see what is at play, your woman and your friends will be able to see through the ruse. 

Your friends may not be able to tell you outright that your woman is using your head, as this is going to come off as very disrespectful. But they will tell you somehow. 

They will do so by directing some form of angst towards her. 

You may notice how uneasy she gets when she is with them. And if you are one who does not question things critically, you may be tempted to believe what she had told you about your friends. 

7. She makes jokes about your emotions

The moment a woman begins to make jokes about your emotional responses. You should know she is being a weird person. 

She may be subtly showing you that she is done with you. Or that she is messing with you. 

Whatever the case is. Take her jokes seriously. 

Read: 10 Types of Women Who Will Ruin Your Life

8. You feel it in your gut

If your gut speaks to you, believe it. 

Some women mess with men for fun. It’s not a great place to be in 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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