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Signs your partner may be experiencing relationship burnout and how to fix it

by | Love

Feb 28, 2024

It is expected of relationships to not be rosy at all times. Normally, couples who love each other might want different things at certain times. There is a thin line between having the occasional disagreements and having a relationship you have invested your life into gradually wither away. Interested in making your relationship last? In this article, we’re going to show you how to know when your partner is slipping away or burnt out and how to get them back. 

Here are some of the signs to know your partner may be experiencing relationship burnout.

1. Nonchalance

Nonchalance is one of the easiest ways to figure out if the love of your life has moved on from you or is in the process of doing so.  

Think about all the times your parents used to annoy you with “nagging” when you were a teenager, how they would complain about certain things you did and try to correct you. At the time, it seemed like they hated you and tried their best to make your life miserable.

For someone like me, adulthood has made me realize that was the true show of love. Caring about someone enough and constantly trying to make them better people for themselves. 

The same applies to relationships. When people decide you are worth being with, they keep trying to make you a hospitable partner for the greater good of the union. Their mediums may or may not include techniques you are not comfortable with, e.g., nagging. 

If your partner seems comfortable with everything you do, even during times you intentionally decide to push your luck, it is likely they have mentally checked out of the relationship. They’re burnt out. This does not only include offenses. It could be the most random thing, like showing them your fit for the day. Constantly look out for this. 

2. Comparison becomes a thing

At every level, a comparison is horrible. It makes one feel less worthy, not good enough to be with. None of which you should make your partner feel. When people begin to compare in relationships, other than the fact that they could just be plain discontented people, there are high chances that they have cheated or are on the path of doing so. 

Even when they try to gaslight you into thinking they simply want the best for the relationship, always learn to find the borders between the former and later. 

How does your partner suddenly know Mr. Tom really is good at giving Oral sex? The wall talked? Okay. Sounds about right. 

3. He cheats on you

Stepping out of the relationship, seeing other people, whatever fancy term they give cheating, is still cheating and is wrong. 

This is the ultimate way to know your partner has moved on from your relationship. 

One thing you should realize is that cheating takes effort. Having to find someone you deem worthy of cheating on your partner with, entertaining conversations, the constant fear of your partner finding out, and so on. 

They could have gotten to the talking stage with the other person and just ended it at that point, but they did not. At the end of it all, they might apologize and say, “It was a mistake.” It most definitely was not. 

Not only is cheating a very deliberate process, but it is very disrespectful, too. Being in a relationship literally is your way of telling someone, “There are so many people out there, but I choose you. And you choose me too, so we have to choose each other for as long as we can”. 

Cheating is a way of going out of that pact and deciding that the third person is much more important than whatever you have going on. 

If they went through that to betray you, probably they have checked out of the relationship. 

Read: Signs She is Pretending to Love You

4. Emotional unavailability

Emotional unavailability is a key part of relationship burnout. This is usually caused by emotional exhaustion. This does not mean they do not love you anymore. It means they can no longer muster the mental energy to continue the conscious process of loving another person. 

You may begin to notice that someone who would have been there to comfort you after hard days of work would play games when they know you desperately need them for emotional support. And to show how impactful this is, it is necessary for you to realize that emotional stability is a glue that holds relationships together. 

How to Fix Your Relationship

1. Communication

As cliche as “communication is key” may sound, it is quite true that communication helps and should be taken seriously. Many amazing relationships have dissolved due to a lack of communication, and it is no secret that costly assumptions contribute greatly to this menace. 

If this is too much of a hassle, you both can go for couples therapy. Under the guidance of a specialist, therapy can help you work out your differences and difficulties better. 

2. Become the bigger person

I know the need to be right and that voice in your head that reminds you of all the ways they had hurt and offended you. This is not to be invalidated, but at some point, it is necessary to set your ego aside, take the fall, and become the bigger person if your relationship is to survive. 

At this point, it is not about who is right or not. It is more about getting into the good graces of your partner again. 

You could reach out first and try to talk things out instead of insisting they apologize to you. When you win their heart again, then you can talk about the ways they had hurt you with them. 

Read: How to Stop Repeating the Same Relationship Mistakes

3. Date them again

When we have been together with someone for a long time, it is totally normal that we become too comfortable, thereby making the sexual tension go away. Remember, something about you attracted them in the first place. It could be your fashion sense or some other superficial thing. 

To fix your relationship, you have to revive that spark. Do not become their sibling or parent. You can do this by dressing up nice, buying them flowers, and even taking them out on dates. 


A relationship can be complicated, but when you do it right, it could be the best thing to ever happen to you. 

By Emilie Schleif

Emilie Schleif is a Lifestyle Writer at Whatsdalatest, where she covers all things relationships and wellness—born and raised in La Canada Flintridge. She currently lives in Hamburg and loves running, hiking, and walking with her dog, Jasper.

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