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6 Signs You Are Her Friend and Nothing More

by | Meeting People, Moving On

May 11, 2024

The thing about the friend zone is that a lot of guys who have entered the friend zone are almost always in denial. A part of them believes that there is still hope and that they can still go ahead and be sexually involved with the woman they are attracted to. In this article, we bring you out of that denial. We show you unmistakable signs that you are her friend and nothing more. 

1. You do most of the reaching out

By far, one of the most specific signs that a guy is just a friend is that he does almost all the reaching out. 

Women are great at entering their shell when they don’t like a guy romantically. Becomes the guy’s place to seek them out over and over. 

If a woman doesn’t see you as a friend, or if a woman is attracted to you, she’s going to be the one who reaches out to you a lot of the time. 

You will not have to worry about what she’s doing or what she’s up to because she’s going to fill you in on all her little details. 

If you are her friend, however, especially in the early stages of the relationship when she’s just forcing you into the friend zone, you’re going to be the one who reaches out the most. 

2. She is bereft of jealousy

When a woman is coming to get attracted to a man sexually, there’s this level of jealousy that is naturally expected to happen. 

Thus, jealousy is completely absent when the woman decides that the guy is going to be just her friend. 

She’s not really going to care about what you do or who you speak to. It’s not her business, after all. You’re just a friend, and she has made a mental note not to decide for you who you should be around or who you should speak to.

If you are unsure whether or not she’s jealous around you, all you have to do is do the jealousy test. 

Jealousy is quite easy to pull off. Just mention a woman who’s prettier than her when you have a conversation next time. 

Talk about how this pretty woman catches your attention and how you found out that this woman stares at you from time to time. 

If the person you admire only wants you as a friend, they will have no reaction to this. They may even encourage you to go after this pretty woman, but if they actually have romantic feelings for you, they may show some jealousy. 

They may even go as far as trying to detach you from the pretty woman you’re talking about.

3. They repel your jealousy

Jealousy is quite attractive to a woman. However, a lot of men fail to realize this. 

If a woman likes a guy and has decided that she’s going to be having sex with him rather than friendzone with him, she’s going to be turned on by his jealousy. 

If, for example, the woman mentions a girl and her man or the man she thinks to have sex with responds by being a little jealous, she’s going to feel happy. 

She’s going to feel like she’s pretty enough to be wanted. 

In that context, jealousy becomes a compliment. It becomes a show that the woman is wanted enough.  

If a woman has friendzoned a guy, however, jealousy is going to be very repulsive. 

This is because the guy is making it obvious that he wants her sexually. Meanwhile, she doesn’t want him sexually at all. 

Show her jealousy. If she’s turned on by it, then she hasn’t friend zoned you, but if she’s repulsed by it, then she has really friend-zoned you. 

Read: How to avoid the friend zone in the first place

4. She talks to you about other guys

A woman knows that it is very disrespectful to speak to a guy who likes her about her sexual relationship with men.

This is only if she likes that man as well.

If she doesn’t like him in a sexual way, very few things count as disrespect. Talking about sex, especially sexual desire directed towards other men, is definitely not taken as disrespect.

If she talks to you about the guys that she likes and the guys that she wants to get involved with, then you should know she doesn’t respect you enough to seek commitment or to even seek sexual activity with you. 

You should accept the fact that you are only seen as a friend.

5. She makes too many demands from you

A woman who doesn’t like a guy will make a lot of demands from him. These demands will often be very outrageous.

She does this because she knows that the guy desires her enough to seek to please her. 

This is  why I tell guys that you should not seek to please a woman so much, especially earlier on in your interaction with her. Pleasing her is not going to make her want you anymore or less. 

She already knows whether or not she wants you.

If there is always something to fix, something to give, someplace to be around, then you should know she has friend zoned you.

The chances of sex happening are now very slim—and rather than try to force it, you should accept things and let them be the way they are. 

Read: How to Have Sex with a Friend

6. She’s not emotionally responsive

A woman who takes you only as a friend is usually very emotionally unresponsive. That is to say, her emotions are often taken out of their interactions, whether physical or virtual. 

She’s not going to feel what she feels deeply. She’s not going to see what you see. And what you are passionate about is really not going to matter to her because she’s not emotionally involved in your interaction. 


It is best that you accept when you are her friend and nothing more because this is going to give you an edge in the relationship. It’s going to give you the chance to decide whether you’re going to stay or whether you’re going to leave. This decision is a man’s true power. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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