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10 Signs She is a Cougar

by | Meeting People, Moving On

Sep 12, 2023

Cougars are older women who feel intensely attracted to younger men sexually. No, a cougar is not a sugar mommy. Though all sugar mummies are cougars, not all cougars are sugar mommies. Cougars are not so hard to spot in a crowd. Our editorial team has been conducting surveys and observing quite a number and has been able to pick out a number of traits that are peculiar to cougars. Here are ten signs that a woman is one. 

1. She is Older than 40

That is the first sign and the most basic one, actually. A woman is only considered a cougar when she is more than 40 years old. 

Try to discover the age of the woman whom you have your eyes on. If she is not up to 40 years old, she is not a cougar. If she is, then you may be dealing with a cougar. 

2. You Have Found her on Dating Sites

Since being a cougar is not that accepted in real life yet. And by that, I mean that a lot of people still frown at the idea most women who are cougars tend to look for mates online. 

Their preferred location to look for these men is on dating sites like Tinder or Bumble. 

If she has shown up on your Tinder swipes before, there is a big chance she is a cougar. 

If you are intrigued by cougars and want to have sex with one, you may as well hit her up. I will be putting up an article soon about how to hit on and bed cougars. 

It is going to be a good discussion, as always, and I cannot wait to have you there. 

Read: 15 Signs She Wants You to Make a Move

3. She Has a Heavy Online presence

If she has got a heavy online presence, that is also a big sign that you may be dealing with a cougar. 

Cougars spend a lot of time online, especially at night when men are online. Some, and I mean most, do not like to be seen on dating sites and so take advantage of regular sites like Facebook and Twitter when they are searching for mates. 

Look through her Facebook profile. Does she have a lot of activity going on there? Like replying to comments and mentioning people? 

If yes, then she is most likely a cougar. You may add her up, text her, and see how things go from there. 

4. She Has an Impeccable Fashion Sense

Women who are still in the sexual market do not joke with what they put on. Being fully aware that every man who looks at them is a potential mate if he fits into the calibre of men she wants. 

A cougar is still in the sexual market. And as such, she sure is going to be one of those who dresses to kill all the time. She will have her hair well-kept and her make-up well-done. 

This is not to say that every woman who dresses well is a cougar. Of course, this is not true. I am only saying that a woman who makes an added effort to appear nice is trying to attract mates. 

What will a 40-year-old woman be attracting mates for? Of course, she may likely be a cougar. 

Read: 5 Signs She Likes You But Only as a Friend

5. She is Very Sexy

There are cougars who dress nice only, and there are ones who take things a step further and dress very sexy. If the woman you are dealing with has taken that step to make herself very sexy, then you should know she is a cougar. 

Cougars like this are not hard to find as the clothes they put on announce themselves. They seem to be on the lips of everyone as that hot woman who lives there or works there. 

If you have ever heard a friend talk about a hot woman who seems way past the age of being hot, then you have to admit that such a woman is a cougar. 

6. There are Rumors

Cougars do not stay hidden, I am telling you. There are always going to be rumors that show that she is one. 

If someone at the office is constantly talking about how she hit on him, you have to begin considering the possibility that she indeed hit on him. 

What does it mean when an older woman hits on a younger guy? It means she is a cougar. 

7. She is Open To Your Flirting

If you are bold enough to push your luck, which I advise you to be, you will find that cougars are very open to you when you flirt. 

Rather than get upset that a younger man over there is trying to woo her, she is going to feel even more beautiful and sexy. 

She is going to open herself to even more flirting, such that you come to see for a fact that this woman is really into younger guys. 

You should not be timid. You should push your luck and flirt with her. 

Read: 10 Signs Your Coworker Wants to Have Sex With You

8. She Flirts with You

If she flirts with you, then you have all the answers you might need. 

This barely ever happens, though, except you are one of or both of these two calibres of guys: 

– Very hot 

– Very confident and cool. 

If you are calm and confident, you subconsciously send a message that tells every woman you are safe to be around. A cougar who feels safe is going to flirt with you for sure. 

9. She Breaks the Touch Barrier

When she breaks the touch barrier, that is her saying: “I want you to touch me.” Should you touch her? Of course, yes. 

I will advise you to go for it if you really want to. Or else you will be seen as timid, and such an opportunity may not show its face again. 

Read: How To Know Your Neighbor Is Single

10. She Tells You

Yes, sometimes they get so comfortable it comes flying out of their mouths before they themselves know it. 

Cougars are not so hard to spot if you know them well enough.

By Martin Corden

Martin Corden is a certified relationship expert and a songwriter from Australia. He loves researching and writing. Martin loves finding new ways to improve and inspires others to be their best version and work together towards it. Martin has a wide range of intellectual and artistic interests.

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