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Should I break up with my girlfriend?

by | Love and Romance

Mar 4, 2022

“I am unhappy with our relationship!” If that’s how you feel, you might be tempted to break up with your girlfriend. This article will give you some better options.

Has your girlfriend has betrayed your trust, or have recurring conflicts drained the joy from your relationship. If so, you might be wondering if it is time to call it quits—to break up with your girlfriend. It is important to be fully informed and approach the question of whether to break up with her realistically.

Why does it Matter? 

You are having doubts about the relationship. 

What would you do? 

Imagine this scenario: A lot has changed in Ben and Viktoria’s relationship. It’s more like a chore when they sit to talk these days. Fights pop up from the smallest things. 

For example, Ben told Viktoria yesterday that she was beginning to look as fat as a ball. He said it jovially, expecting her to laugh. But she did not. She flared up and trudged to bed. She wouldn’t say anything to him until later today. 

They also don’t go on dates anymore because Viktoria is ‘too busy, and their sex life has become something else. 

Ben feels some way about this. This is not the kind of relationship he has always wanted. He’s always wanted something tender and loving, the kind of relationship where there is no tension. 

He has tried to talk to Viktoria about it, but she seldom wants to listen. Now, he asks himself, Should I break up with her? 

If it were you, what would you do?

Break-ups Happen

Some relationships last forever. But some don’t. If anything, you should know that a relationship is not a small cage designed to keep you in against your wish.

You should know that breakups happen, and it isn’t wrong to ask if you should break up with her. 

Sometimes, this might just be the best thing for you. 

What Do You Want From The Relationship? 

Relationships are personal. We all want different things from our romantic relationships

What do you want from yours? Be clear about it. Many men want to be loved, respected, and appreciated. What is it for you? 

Also, what boundaries are you willing to keep, and which are you willing to dismantle? When does far become too far? 

A clear understanding of what your deal breakers are will help you know whether to break up with her or not. 

To some people, cheating is a deal-breaker. To others, it’s lying. To others, it might be something much tinier than lying. What are your deal breakers? 

Talk To Her

Before you make a hurried decision to end your once fun-filled relationship, talk to her. 

So, things are not going the way they should between you and your partner, and all day you ask yourself, Should I break up with her? 

Well, have you talked to her about the relationship? With relationships, you see, it takes two people to fix whatever might be going wrong. 

It may be a little thing, or it might be a much bigger one. But I am sure talking to your partner about it will reveal a lot. 

It might reveal how fixable things are and how breaking up would have been such a bad idea. It could, however, also reveal how bad you need a break-up. Either way, it’s a win-win.

The Pointers:

Usually, the pointers that are—break up might just be what you need are:

  • You don’t trust your partner again
  • They keep cheating on you 
  • Your religious views don’t align
  • They are physically abusive

You Make the Decision:

In the end, it is you who decides whether or not you want to continue the relationship. 

If you’re deciding to call it quits with your woman, please do so in a healthy way. Break up with your partner in person, not over text. Don’t say hurtful things, and try to show empathy.

You have got to be strong and stick with any decision you believe is the best for you. 

Action Plan

How can I talk about my feelings? How can I set healthy boundaries?

Photo by Etienne Boulanger on Unsplash

By Martin Corden

Martin Corden is a certified relationship expert and a songwriter from Australia. He loves researching and writing. Martin loves finding new ways to improve and inspires others to be their best version and work together towards it. Martin has a wide range of intellectual and artistic interests.

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