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Should I always Go Balls Deep inside Her

by | Sensual Intimacy

Aug 4, 2023

That is the big question guys ask. Should they go balls deep? When is it right to go balls deep? In this article, I will be showing you everything you need to know about stroke depth. It gets interesting as women tell us what to do and how to do it.

Should you go balls deep inside her? 

The answer is: it depends.

It depends on: 

1. Your Length

The length of your dick determines to a great extent, how deep you are supposed to go. 

Men who have bigger and longer penises are not advised to go that deep into her as that presents the risk of pain. 

The vagina is a canal that opens into the cervix. 

If the dick is too big and long, it may poke at the cervix and send pain receptors into action. You must know now that pain is a sensation we want you to avoid at all costs when you are having sex with your woman. 

The less pain you can induce, the better the sex is going to be. Bad sex has a lot of pain sandwiched in between. Great sex? It is all just pleasure. 

If you have a small penis, then it may be proper to go deep inside her, as there is little risk that she is going to be hurt. 

This is one of those times when having a small dick is ‘better off’ than having a bigger one.

2. How Lubricated she is

Lubrication also comes into play when the subject of stroke depth is brought up. 

When a woman is well lubricated, it may be easy to do deep inside her and not cause any problems. Most of the problems that arise from stroking too deeply come from pain. 

She does not want to feel pain. I repeat: she does not want to feel pain. 

Read: The Triad of Sensuality

3. Are you Shaved?

This may seem like a weird question, and I know you are probably asking: what has being shaved got to do with the depth of my strokes? 

I will tell you what: your hair can initiate the pain stimulus. 

When you go balls deep into a woman, your pelvis comes in contact with her groin, isn’t it? 

If you are very bushy down there, the hair around your groin is going to brush her. And you know hair to be brittle. Of course, hair can hurt. It is going to hurt her. 

So, if you insist on not shaving your pubic hair, then I will advise against going balls deep inside her. 

4. Is she Shaved? 

Now, we are concerned about eliminating all your pain. If she is not shaved, going balls deep inside her is going to hurt you, and you should not do it. 

Or if you do, you should not go so deep your body comes in contact with her body, especially when you are in the missionary position. 

The missionary position is a good one, yes, but it is going to be a nightmare for you both if she is not yet shaved. 

If you really want to go that deep, then the best thing to do is ask her to go get shaved. 

5. Your Tummy Hurts Sometimes

If, for some reason, you have noticed that your tummy hurts sometimes, I will advise against going so deep into her. 

This is because you do not need your already hurt tummy to take any more stress. It is better if you stay outside. 

If you must go deep, it has to be in a position where you don’t take any hits to the tummy. 

6. Is it Her First or Second Time?

If the answer is yes, you definitely don’t have to go balls deep inside her. I don’t think I need to tell you this, but I would anyway: the first time hurts very bad. So, if you don’t want to hurt her, stay away. 

Just focus on the surface for now. In fact, you may even have to do more fingering than actual penetrative sex. 

This is because, with the fingers, you will be able to gauge your strokes better.

This is not a guide to having sex with a woman on her first time, but here are some tips if you want to do so: 

– Make sure she is lubricated 

– Use your fingers more 

– Do not go balls deep inside her. 

7. The Sex is Rough

When it comes to rough sex, deep strokes do not do it. You don’t have to go balls deep on that one, and here is why: going balls deep is going to slow down the sex, and there will be, of course, a lot of slips. 

It is very annoying when your dick slips out: both for you and your woman. Some women have said when a dick slips out around the time when they expect to cum it makes them lose interest in having sex at all anymore. 

Read: 10 Big Bedroom Turn-Offs for Women

8. She Pushes You Back

You know you need to back up when she pushes you back. It tells just one thing: she is hurting. Usually, women will almost never say it when they are hurting. 

I have never heard a woman say: “I am hurting” in bed before. 

She may not say it, but she will act it: she will try to push you away. Don’t think for once that this is her enjoying what you are doing. It is not. 

9. She Moans of Pain

Women moan for a number of reasons. One of those is because they are in pain. You should be able to tell the difference. That is what makes a man great in bed. Men who cannot tell the difference are considered majorly bad in bed. 

Read: 10 Reasons Why Women Moan

10. Does She Want it? 

I know for sure that women sometimes tell guys to go deeper. If your woman tells you this, then by all means, please go deeper.

Go as deep as you can. Show her you are the man.


You need to know when to go deep and when not to.

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