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Top 6 Mistakes Men Make In Bed That Throw Women Off

by | Sensual Intimacy

Apr 15, 2024

Men make a lot of mistakes in bed. And women hate it much when in the face of these mistakes. They make sex taste sour and stale. And whilst women won’t talk about them, our editors will. In this article, we explore the most common of the common mistakes men make in bed that throw women off.

1. Knocking teeth when kissing

We’d be honest. Everyone likes a good kisser. A good kiss has three features. It is sensual. It isn’t rushed. It is free of pain and discomfort. Women don’t like a man who doesn’t know how to kiss. 

Or better put, they do not like a man who causes them pain during kissing. 

Of all the common mistakes men make in bed, knocking teeth when kissing stands up there. It shows the woman that you are a bad kisser, and a bad kisser is usually up to no good sexually in the woman’s mind. 

She goes: “If he cannot pay a little attention and kiss me right, then he definitely cannot be there to make me feel good pleasure in bed.”

This is usually true. It usually is a correct instinct. 

You should invest some more time into learning how to kiss right. A man who kisses right is such a big yes in any woman’s eyes. 

2. Touching her vagina with long, dirty nails

It should be popular knowledge that long nails should be kept away from a woman’s vagina. The reason is simple. Long nails are a breeding ground for bacteria, and many times, these are the very bacteria that cause urinary tract infections in women.

Women have shorter urethras than men. So, any pathogen that comes in contact with their urethra often ascends faster than is the case with men. This makes them easily prone to infections. 

Your woman will hate it so much if you try to finger her with long nails. It is one mistake a woman cannot help but hate. Sometimes, when they are too empathetic to tell you what you are doing sucks, they may reject the offer to be fingered by you altogether. 

They may say something like: “I don’t like being fingered, you know?”

This is a sign that you, or someone they have been sexual with in the past, had once tried to finger them with dirty hands. 

3. Rushing foreplay

Foreplay is a vital part of any great sex. To have great sex, you have got to have great foreplay. Foreplay can be a lot of good when done right. It can also be a lot of bad when done wrong. Your woman hates it when you rush foreplay. 

This is a classic example of sexual frustration. 

Frustration comes when we think we can’t have what we deserve. Your woman knows more than anything that she deserves to be sexually pleased by you. 

When she can’t have this pleasing, as in cases where you rush sexual activities like foreplay, you give her room to be frustrated. It is like taking someone to the edge of the water and asking them not to swim in it.

Your woman wants you to take your time when you are with her. She wants the foreplay to go great so that she is set and wet by the time you penetrate. 

4. You penetrate when she is not wet enough

A lot of guys don’t know how to penetrate a woman. Whether or not she is wet doesn’t matter if your penis isn’t lubricated enough. 

When penetrating a woman, what you should aim to do is lubricate your penis first before entering into you with your entire length. In the absence of lube, a blowjob can help. But if she is one to hate blowjobs, you can do what I call the first stroke maneuver. 

This is something I have been doing for quite some time. It is easy to do. All you have to do is rub your penis on her clitoris and then stick just around 1cm of it into her vagina. 

Now, move in real slow, going in side to side so that her wetness covers your dick. 

This works if she is wet, at least to a degree. 

If she is not wet enough, it means your foreplay is not right. Do your foreplay properly. Give her head. 

5. Biting the nipple too hard

Most women admit that they feel a sense of heightened sexual pleasure when their nipples are stroked. 

As such, they tend to insist that their partners stroke their nipples somehow. SometimesSometimes, they ask that the nipples be bitten. 

Don’t make the mistake of biting too hard it begins to hurt, or you will risk making one of those common mistakes men make in bed. 

The nipples have such a good number of nerve endings. Biting too hard is definitely going to send shards of pain so that she backs away and may not want to continue the activity. 

You have to understand that, save some scenarios where pain might be a kink, pain is not something that she or even you should experience much during sexual activity. 

6. Stopping mid-stroke

Stopping mid-stroke is something a lot of men do, and as a man myself, I know why. Sometimes, we do it as a means of keeping ourselves from cumming too early. And while it works for our good, it does not really benefit the woman’s pleasure. 

In fact. It annoys her. 

Chances are, you will stop stroking at the very second when she is nearing an orgasm. I have seen this happen a lot of times. It is truly annoying to the woman, and she hates to be there. 

Take your time. Stroke nicely. I recommend you read up our article on how to up your stroke game, and practice what you read. 


There are many things a woman dislikes in bed. These are, however, more common than men realize. Men should learn to be better. 

By Martin Corden

Martin Corden is a certified relationship expert and a songwriter from Australia. He loves researching and writing. Martin loves finding new ways to improve and inspires others to be their best version and work together towards it. Martin has a wide range of intellectual and artistic interests.

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