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How Women Mark Territories

by | Love

Mar 31, 2024

Women mark territories in relationships, too. Most men don’t see this, but it is always there and can be a pointer to how badly a woman wants you. I like to tell people that women protect what they hold dear. Are you dear to your woman? Let’s help you find out. Here is how women mark territories:

1. Conquering the man

One of the many ways a woman marks her territories is by conquering her man. It is a very funny but vital game being played here. 

The woman knows that a man is likely going to seek other pleasing women since it is in a man’s nature to explore, so she will try to conquer him.

She does this by applying two tactics:


With this, the woman tries to dissociate the man from what he usually loves. She keeps him from places he would usually be at. 

Say, he likes to stop at the bar by 10 p.m every day. A woman who wants to conquer him will insist that he stops going there. 

She will blackmail him with an emotional need of hers. 

Something along the lines of: “You go over there and spend some time, leaving me alone here every single day.”

The man who gives in is conquered. Her territory has then been marked. 


A woman may also conquer a man, marking her territory by making herself the center of her man’s life. 

This is called centralization. 

She is going to make the man believe that everything has to be about her.

She will tell him all the things he is supposed to do right to make her “happy.”

This works pretty well with some men. It shows the man where he should be: in her space. In bed territory. 

Sadly, a man’s giving in to a woman’s conquering technique is the fastest way to kill attraction.

Such a woman will most likely no longer respect the man so much. 

She is going to see him as a weakling. Women want men who are challenging. They want to try but fail at conquering any man. The one who conquers is stronger. And women do not want to be stronger.

Women want men to be stronger. 

Conduct a survey yourself. Ask ten women you know if they want stronger men, and I bet all of them will say yes. Women are attracted to strength. 

Read: Signs she isn’t feeling you much

2. Public display of affection

Public displays of affection are romantic, yes. But they don’t only serve a romantic function. They can also be a means by which a woman marks her territories. 

If a woman spots some other woman staring at her man for so long, for example, she may lean in and kiss this man. 

This is her way of saying: “I have him. He is mine.”

Observe how your woman acts when she spots other women looking at you, and you’ll agree she must have acted the same way. 

Sometimes, they do not opt for public displays of affection. 

They opt for something rather fiercer. Like tossing the offending woman a very bad glare. 

One of our editors took a field trip to a city in the U.S. for personal research.  

Her task was simple. She was to look at men who were with their spouses flirtatiously, biting her lower lip. 

She looked at 15 couples in total that afternoon. 

10 of these couples kissed each other, and the other five looked at her angrily. 

This means all those women marked their territories. 

Women mark territories, too!

Read: How to Tell if a Girl Is Messing with You

3. She leaves her belongings behind

This is especially true with women who have reason to suspect that you may be cheating on them. 

I have seen this happen a lot of times with my fiancé. 

They will often leave a very sensitive belonging in a very sensitive spot, knowing that your potential cheat partner will bump into it. 

For example, they can drop a panty in your bathroom, or leave a note in your drawer. 

I know this is somewhat hard to believe. But it does happen. 

Yan told us his side chick once began to give him an attitude. And when he approached her about it, she opened up to him about the pain seeing his main chick’s underwear caused him. 

She went on to tell him that his main chick had left this underwear on purpose!

Women also leave their undies to catch a cheating partner. When a woman wants to catch you cheating, she is going to do all it takes. 

4. She insists on cooking your meals for work

There is almost always that coworker that comes to work with home made food. Yes. There is a possibility that his wife gives him homemade lunch because she loves him very much. 

However, one cannot deny the reality that a homemade lunch is also usually a woman’s way of marking her territory. 

It is her way of saying: “Hey, y’all, I have got this one. You don’t have to worry about impressing him. I have him, and I take good care of him.”

Does this work? Of course it does. 

In a small pool, we conducted on doctors in a small hospital in Nigeria and found that doctors who brought homemade lunch to work were less likely to be approached by other female doctors. 

Other women are weirdly sharp at spotting the territorial signs their fellow women put up. They stay away real good.  

5. Social media

Social media makes the world go round. Everything works there these days, and women have definitely found a way to make it work for them. 

A woman can definitely mark territories with her profile on social media. 

All she has to do is update her relationship status. 

She may even tag her husband, fiance, or boyfriend to a number of posts. That is all she has to do. 

Other women will back away for sure. 

By QuietYearning Editors

The QuietYearning Team covers everything from relationships to lifestyle to parenting and more. Its team of experts provides in-depth analysis that helps you understand complex topics on relationships.

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