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How to Trigger Her Sexual Desire

by | Sensual Intimacy

May 14, 2024

Everyone has a desire to have sex. It is a desire that takes root in our very biology. Many times this desire is either suppressed or dormant, especially in women. In this article, we will show you how to trigger her sexual desire. These methods have been proven to work.

1. Take away toxic shame

A woman will not want to have sex as long as she feels toxic shame. 

The term toxic shame refers to all forms of shame that keep a person away from their actual desires. 

We all have some toxic shame around certain things. For men, toxic shame is not around sex. At least for a vast majority of men.

Men know that they’re supposed to have sex and try to have sex. But there is such a huge difference with women, even though women get horny too, and have such a raging desire to have sex every now and then, they tend to suppress this desire because somehow they are ashamed of it.  

This desire is often suppressed on the basis of either moralistic views, religious views, or societal norms. 

The man who must trigger sexual desire in a woman must be able to remove all forms of toxic shame she may be experiencing. 

She has to be able to change her mind about sex. 

She must come to see sex as something that is a normal human practice that is pleasurable for both the man and the woman. 

This is usually a very difficult thing to do. It requires such a high level of subtlety. 

You can’t just get up and begin to challenge a woman’s idea about sex. It’s going to feel like you’re undermining her or like you think your ideas are superior to hers.  

You have to do it subtly, one step at a time. 

2. Take away trauma—If present

If there’s a presence of trauma surrounding sexual activity in a woman, even when this trauma may not be so pronounced, it is such a great idea to take it away.  

Trauma may not necessarily have to be sexual abuse. It can be anything. From having consistently bad sexual encounters to having a sexually transmitted infection that made the woman want to stay away from sex. 

Many women have some form of sexual trauma. 

The man who is able to take them away is definitely going to be able to make her sexual desire rage. 

Read: How to Seduce a Girl

3. Her body

Her body is one of the major struggles she has. 

If she has not had sex with you yet, even though she has made it obvious that she likes you in a sexual way, it may likely be because she doesn’t want you to see her body just yet. 

Many times, it may be because she doesn’t love the way her body looks. 

I have met many women who have struggled with this, and successfully helped many of them overcome the anxiety they have had over their bodies. 

It works really well when a man can compliment a woman’s body to the point where she no longer feels the need to hide it. Where she comes to embrace herself as a sexual person who should have sex and enjoy it, especially if it is sex with someone she admires. 

Notice how triggering sexual desire is something that first happens at the mental level? 

Yes. It has to happen at the mental level before one takes it to the emotional level. If she has mental blockades around sex, nothing you do will make her open to having sex. 

I have seen this happen quite a lot. 

4. Flirt with her

Flirting is such a valuable tool when one is trying to trigger sexual desire. 

But then again, a lot of guys don’t know how to flirt. Flirting demands a very high level of subtlety. 

You really don’t have to make it obvious to a woman that you’re flirting with her. If you do this, especially if you do it too early on in the relationship, when she has not begun to see you as a sexual partner, then you are very likely to miss your chance with that woman. 

The purpose of flirting is to produce awareness. You flirt because you want her to know that you’re sexually interested in her. 

When awareness has been created in her mind, that is to say, when she knows for a fact that you’re sexually interested in her and reciprocates this interest by flirting back, then you can take it to the next level, which is initiating physical contact. 

Flirting, therefore, can be seen to be a green light. It’s called green light commonly, even. A light that tells her that this man is very interested in her particularly. 

Read: How to Trigger a Woman’s Emotions

4. Initiate physical contact

Initiating physical contact should be your next step after flirting when you’re trying to trigger sexual desire in a woman. 

But remember that you only do this if she reciprocates your energy and flirts back with you. 

Don’t make the mistake of breaking the touch barrier with a woman who has not reciprocated your flirtatious energy. I can assure you that it’s not going to end very well.  

It might even end so badly that she tries to dissociate herself from you. 

Women are great at dissociating themselves from guys who are bold enough to touch them without the required sexual desire. 

5. Put thoughts in her head

Yes, you should put thoughts in her head. You should put the most sexual, the most nasty, and the most dirty thoughts in her head. 

But be very sure to make these thoughts very appealing. The more appealing, the bigger the chances that she’s going to rage in sexual desire. 

Read: How to Make Her Keep Coming Back for More

6. Be in enclosed spaces together more often

Spend more time in enclosed spaces with her. 

Don’t touch her or anything. Just make her comfortable enough to share an enclosed and sexy space with you. 

And sooner or later, sex is going to happen. 

Triggering sexual desire is easy. You just have to get into her mind. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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