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How to Tell a Hug is Romantic

by | Love

Jul 5, 2023

Hugs are, well, hugs. We get them pretty often. From people we love. From people we think are cool but don’t have much interest in. From family, etc. Hugs can be such a great way to show emotion, and a hug can be romantic. 

Seeing that hugs are pretty easy to come by, one may be inclined to overlook how much hugs can be a sign that something is taking place beneath the surface. That someone is beginning to find us pretty attractive. 

This is just how you tell a hug is romantic; how to know someone is interested in you by just how they hug you. 

1. The Hugs Come Pretty Often

Well, the truth is, no matter how common hugs get, there is usually some inner resistance when we constantly hug someone with whom we are not so romantically interested. 

Say, a boss, for example, or a friend we are just getting to know. If we hug them too often, alarm bells may begin to ring in our heads because we do not trust this person so much yet. 

On the other hand, if we are very romantically interested in someone, we will embrace every chance to get that person’s skin on ours. 

So, we will hug them much more. 

Many hugs mean he or she may just be as interested in you as you hope them to be. 

2. The Hugs are Tighter

The looseness or the tightness of a hug can let you know if a person is romantically interested in you or not. 

When a man hugs a woman pretty tight, he is saying: “Hey, I think I like you, and now I will cover you.”

Hugs can be considered some form of male protection. I don’t know how this works, but it is true. Men are more inclined to hug women they love pretty tight. 

When a woman hugs a man pretty tight, on the other hand, she accepts that his hugs make her feel safe. 

Safety is the first layer of romance for women. When a woman feels safe with a mama, she will begin to love him.

Read: 10 Signs He Doesn’t Want You Sexually

3. The Hugs Last Longer

Regular hugs last around 2 seconds. Anything considerably longer should be thought of as a romantic hug. 

On average, romantic hugs tend to last around 5 seconds, with a lot of close contact. 

We tend to hug people we love that tight because it gives us a picture that they will stay close for a long time. 

It may not seem like it on the surface, but what we imagine has a way of finding expression in reality. 

Romantic hugs find this expression of lasting long really easy. It’s a way of saying: “Stay with me.”

4. There’s Rubbing and Touching

Behind the scenes or better put, behind the hug, touching can tell you a lot about the two parties’ romantic interest. 

If a hug is romantic, there is surely going to be some touching and fondling behind the scenes. He is going to have his hands on your waist. 

She is going to rub you on areas you love to be rubbed on: just below your spinal curve and around your ribs. 

Hugs without emotion are bland. The perfect example is what’s seen in offices. 

Read: 10 Reasons Why Some Women Like Tall Men

5. The Hugs are Requested For

Hugs that are requested almost always have a romantic undertone. 

I do not see myself, or anyone at that, requesting to be hugged by someone they do not like a whole lot. 

Many times, we do not even want to be touched by people we don’t like very much. 

If he or she requests that you hug them, chances are, they love you. 

6. She Rests Her Head on Your Chest

If, after a hug, she rests her head on your chest, it can only mean that she is romantically attracted to you. Believe me that is what it means. 

Women are very sensitive about the people they show affection to. And laying her head on a person’s chest is about the most affectionate thing ever because it is a symbol that you make her comfortable. 

A woman who thinks you make her comfortable is going to someday really like you, that is, if she does not like you already. 

7. Intense Eye Contact When You Both Pull Away from Each Other

Usually, with hugs from people who really like each other, there is a moment of pulling away that is very intense if you pay attention to it. 

Sometimes, they pull away and stare at each other. Other times, they pull away and again enter another hug. The point is, whatever happens during that brief moment just when the hug is about to end tells a lot. 

If he or she looks into your eyes and you can spot something like vulnerability, then they may be attracted to you. 

Read: 10 Ways to Let Them Know You Love Them Without Saying It

8. A Double Hug

A double hug is very common with people who are romantically drawn to each other. 

If just after the first hug ends, another one begins, then you should consider it a romantic one. 

Here is why; it is a means to say: “Not yet. I do want to let you go.”

Interesting, isn’t it? 

There’s even more interesting stuff with double hugs. You can use them to relay romantic interest. If you want someone to know how much you love them, you can give them a double hug every now and then and be sure they will get the point. 

9. You Hold Hands After

If you both hold hands after the hug, then you can admit that the person has some romantic interest in you. 

Try to squeeze their hands in yours after the hug. 

How do they react? If they are embracing this, they like you. 

Read: How to Cuddle | 15 Tips for Cuddling

10. Hugging Them Improves Your Mood

If hugging someone improves your mood, then there is a big chance hugging you improve their mood as well. 

That sounds great, doesn’t it? Well, because it is great. 

They like you. 

Hugs can be such a great way to show emotion. 

By Emilie Schleif

Emilie Schleif is a Lifestyle Writer at Whatsdalatest, where she covers all things relationships and wellness—born and raised in La Canada Flintridge. She currently lives in Hamburg and loves running, hiking, and walking with her dog, Jasper.

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