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How to Tell a Guy You Want to Make Love

by | Sensual Intimacy

May 16, 2024

Most women will feel their skin crawl at the idea of telling a guy they want to make love. Probably because many women feel like it is a responsibility of guys to make the notion of lovemaking. In this article, we explore nonverbal, verbal, and online cues that can be used to tell him that you want to make love with him.

Non Verbal Cues

Nonverbal cues involve actions that suggest to the man that you are interested in getting down with him. 

1. Pout your lips

Our lips are such a big part of our sexuality.

In fact, most men agree that a woman’s lips are the most sexy part of her. 

Take advantage of your lips and call him towards you sexually without uttering even one word.

When he looks at you, pout your lips to him as though you are blowing him a kiss. 

Trust me, men are very smart. He will get the memo even before you realize he has.  

2. Lick your lower lips

Another trick that works to let him know that you are trying to make love with him is licking your lower lips. 

A lot of men do this when they are trying to sleep with women; and it works when women do it as well. 

Roll your tongue over your lower lip, and then roll your tongue over your upper lip. 

Do it two or three times, and make sure that each time you do so, you are maintaining very sensual eye contact with him. 

Trust me, he’s going to understand exactly what you are seeking; and sooner or later is going to grant that wish. 

Read: Do Guys Know When They Have Met The One?

3. Smile flirtatiously

Seriously, a smile can tell a guy that you are intending to make love to him. 

Smile as flirtatiously as possible. And do other forms of flirtatious nonverbal cues alongside the smile. 

Like winking at him. Or just biting the corner of your lips. 

If you are somewhere private, and you are sure that he will not consider this move as some kind of sexual abuse or inappropriate behavior, you can wrap your hands against the middle finger of the second hand. 

This move works like magic. He immediately knows what he should do and may come after you immediately afterwards. 

Verbal Cues

With verbal cues, you will have to say what you want in the way that the man understands. 

1. Slide in an innocent joke

Innocent jokes don’t hurt after all. They are very appropriate to buffer the effect of seemingly offensive sexual talks. 

For example, you can literally tell a guy: “Fuck, I wish I could be sucking on a dick right now.”

And as long as you see it in a funny way, he is not going to feel offended by what you’re saying. 

Make your sexual advances as very innocent jokes.

Men are a lot smarter than we give them credit for as women. 

Trust me when I say he’s going to understand exactly what is going on, and will most likely play along until sex actually happens. 

2. Talk about sex

The next verbal cue that would work is talking about sex. 

Seriously, talk about sex and talk about sex at length. Make it a very vivid conversation, where there are a lot of images and he can almost visibly see sex taking place. 

Men are usually very visual people, and if you can make them think about something in great detail, they are going to come to desire its design as well. 

As you continue to talk about sex, he’s going to enter a phase where he goes; “Wow, she’s talking about sex too much. Does this mean she want to have sex?”

If you can give him reasons to mentally provide the answer, yes, to his inner dialogue, then he’s going to have sex with you. 

Read: What Do Guys Think About The Girls They Hook Up With

3. Ask him to tell you about sex

If you don’t want to be the one passing the ball around, maybe all you have to do is put the ball in his court and let him continue from there. 

Ask him to talk about sex and make him see that you are interested in the smallest, finest details. 

For example, you can make him talk about the last time he had sex and what that sex felt like.

He will often fall into this trap because a good sexual performance almost always stirs a man’s ego. 

If he performed really well the last time he had sex, be sure that he’s going to give you a lot of details with the hopes that you are going to want to have sex with him as well. 

What he does not know is that you have already planned to make love to him.

The game is the game. 

4. Tell him

Depending on how bold you are, sometimes all you have to do is tell him straight to his face that you want to have sex with him. 

Most men will be thrown back by this. 

But at the end of the day, they’re going to be truly welcoming of the idea and will, maybe, even front the entire sexual encounter    

Online Cues

Online cues work when you are interacting with the man on social media. 

1. Erotic poetry rescues

Seriously, send him erotic poetry, and make sure that these poems are heavily infused with love. 

We have published a couple of erotic poems on our blog. You may have to check these out and probably also learn how to write erotic poetry yourself. 

2. Ask what he thinks of some nude art piece

Send him some nude art pieces and ask what he thinks about these pieces. 

Most men would have already gotten the message the moment the erotic pieces land in their inbox. 

He will immediately know you’re trying to make love to him. 

3. Tell him

It’s easier to say you won’t have sex online. 

Just tell him you want to have sex with him. My best bet is that he’s going to try to make that happen. 


Women need to learn how to demand for love too. 

By Emilie Schleif

Emilie Schleif is a Lifestyle Writer at Whatsdalatest, where she covers all things relationships and wellness—born and raised in La Canada Flintridge. She currently lives in Hamburg and loves running, hiking, and walking with her dog, Jasper.

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