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How to Stop Feeling Sore in Your Vagina

by | Health & Wellness

May 6, 2024

If you notice that you feel sore in or around your vagina after sex, it may be time to make some changes. We have put up this article to help you through these changes, so that you no longer feel sore during sex. So that you come to truly enjoy your sex life. Here is how to stop feeling sore in your vagina after sex:

1. Get aroused enough

A lot of women feel sore because they are not aroused enough during sex. The good thing about arousal is that it shows physically. 

If you are aroused enough, you are going to feel quite wet. And if you are not, except in cases where the woman has a defect that keeps her from getting wet, you are not going to get wet. 

Here is how to truly get and stay aroused:

Let go of anxiety:

I like to say that anxiety has no place in sex. If you are feeling too anxious, you are going to have bad sex because your mind is going to convince your body that you are in trouble. 

Let go of all forms of anxiety and enjoy the sex.

Pay attention to foreplay:

Good foreplay is the hallmark of great sex. I haven’t known many sexual encounters I will describe as being great when the foreplay wasn’t great. 

Pay attention to foreplay. And be careful to not make the mistake of keeping the foreplay on too long. 

Give mental attention to the sex

Don’t just lay there and have sex. It is bad practice and will make you dryer than you should be. 

Be involved in the sex. Enjoy it for you. Enjoy it for your partner, too. 

2. Use lube

If you are not getting wet enough, it may be time to use some lube. A lot of women think that lube is for women who have ‘problems’ and may even be embarrassed to use it. 

But here is the thing: use lubricant if you cannot get wet enough. It does nothing to rob you of your sexual pleasure or of your ability to please your partner. 

When choosing lube, be sure that you choose water based lubes that do not have the potential to trigger an allergic reactions. 

3. Choose condoms wisely

I know it’s going to be weird to choose condoms for your partner. If it is too weird for you, don’t do it. 

Instead, talk to your partner about how the condoms he uses makes you feel some allergies. Condom allergies are a thing. If you use the wrong condom, sex is going to fel more like a burn than a thing of pleasure. 

Choose Spermicides properly as well. If you react to spermicidal creams, it may be time to either change the manufacturer of the spermicides you use or just seek alternative forms of contraception altogether. 

Read: How Your Diet Affects Your Vagina: The Guide to Vaginal Health

4. Don’t have sex on your period

Having sex on your period may make you feel wetter. But it really isn’t more lubricated because of the nature of blood. Blood grows thick when exposed to air and can become very rough, almost like rubbing your hands together. 

If you notice that having sex during your period hurts, it may be time to stop. 

5. Put off the air condition

I never knew how dry the AC could make someone until I began to have sex with the AC off. Yes, it was hotter a bit. But it was also more humid. This meant I could be wetter for longer. 

The AC may be the culprit that is making sex feel dry. The fan, too, so put them both off.

Or you can do it this way: have the AC blasting in full force minutes or an hour before the sex happens. Then put it off. The room is still going to be cool, but the humidity won’t be that low it causes dryness. 

Nene said: “I always wondered why I was so dry and so sore after sex. Up until I saw how much the AC played a part. It’s been a while now since I stopped having sex close to an AC, and now I feel a lot wetter and for longer.”

6. Shave

It is possible that your hair is what is hurting you. If the hair around your vulva is too long, the penis may be able to pull it into your vagina and out. This is going to cause a lot of friction and hurt. 

It is going to be hurtful for both you and your partner. Consider shaving, and if you don’t like to shave (some women get bumps when the shave), you can think about getting a wax job.

Waxes are not as painful as people make them to be. 

7. Have your partner shave, too

You and your partner ought to shave. Your partner’s hairy genitals may be causing you pain took, as his hair is likely to rub against your groin when you are in positions like the missionary position or the cowgirl

Read: Men Describe What a Beautiful Vagina Looks Like

8. Don’t be too intense

You really should not be too intense with the sex if you are prone to getting sore. Hard sex that is very intense, with just too many vigorous strokes, can make one feel sore faster. This is especially true if the sex lasts very long. 

Have your partner slow down. Don’t be too intense. 

9. Take breaks

Sometimes, taking breaks is a great idea. It can give your vagina more room to breathe and recover. 

If you sense that you may begin to feel sore, let it be for a while and then continue later.

10. Talk to your doctor

If what you feel during sex is tilted towards pain more than just soreness, it may be time to talk to your doctor. 

Summary

Soreness in your vagina, when you have sex, can be fixed by either removing allergies or just working to improve and sustain arousal. 

By QuietYearning Editors

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