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How to Rise in Her List of Potential Mates

by | Meeting People, Moving On

May 5, 2024

One thing the average girl has more than the average guy is a strikingly high number of options. A girl may look just as good as a guy but have ten times more options than he does. And the thing about these options is that they are constantly in rotation. The list keeps getting updated so that guys have to compete for a spot. Whilst this may seem unfair, the truth is, it isn’t. This is the way mating works, even with other lower mammals. It seems to have a primitive root. In this article, we show you how to rise in her list of potential mates, especially if you missed the first chance. 

1. Fucked up the first meet? There’s more to go

Guys like to think that one mistake marks the end of things with women.  This is not true. In fact, it is not even close to the truth. 

With women, there will be a number of chances. You just don’t have to make the wrong kind of mistake. 

The fact that she is still talking to you even after the first mess up is prove that she is giving you another chance. By all means, take advantage of this. 

2. Ask to meet her again

This is the redeeming meet. And to be honest, it is usually one of the best ever. If she is still talking to you even after the first meeting didn’t go well, she is saying: “Okay, I’ll give you another chance. Just don’t blow it up this time.”

Take her advice. Don’t blow it up! 

Everything should be near perfect. From the venue you pick to the clothes you wear. By all means, you should appear like a high-value man who is a gentleman. 

Women love gentlemen who have a touch of bad boys. This is because as much as a woman likes and prefers men who are providers and are responsible, they also like men who are able to trigger a desire for sex. 

Be the bad guy. But be the good guy at the same time. This is how you get up her list of potential mates. 

3. Stir negative emotions

You have to know that there are a lot of guys after her. You don’t want to be the one who is just like the others. 

Be the different guy, and she will turn her attention to you. This is how bad guys get a lot of women. 

You can be different in many ways, but I don’t want you to do it the good way. You should be the playboy. 

Trigger negative feelings and emotions in her, and do it often. Make her feel sad, and then make her laugh it off like you are playing her emotions like a card. 

Women like guys who are like this. She will turn her attention to you, and over time, you will begin to become that guy she considers the best potential mate.

Read: Signs you’re getting it tonight

4. Make her laugh

Women like guys who make them laugh. This is how they have always been. If you make a woman laugh, and if you do it often, she is going to have you in mind for some time. 

Learn how to be humorous. Don’t be the boring guy. Each time you sit to talk to her, make sure there is something you both can laugh about.

It can be something about you or something about her. I suggest it’s something about her because she is a woman and loves to be the center of attention. She is sure to love being the center of your attention.  

5. Be proud and funny: Or father, cocky and funny

If you look at all the bad guys who women seem to choose over seemingly good men, you will see that these men are cocky and funny. It almost makes you want to ask: “Why do women like to choose jerks?”

Well, because jerks cannot be tossed around. At the core of every woman is the desire for stability. 

The woman wants to be stable, and she is sure to find that stability in a man who is stable and won’t let his emotions get the better of him. Be cocky and funny. Stand for what you believe, and disagree with her from time to time. I understand that you may be afraid that this will push her away, but trust me, it won’t. 

It will make her love and want you even more. 

6. Be able to disagree with her

Don’t be a pushover. Be able to disagree with her from time to time. Women like it when men can disagree.

It means you have a mind of your own. You should have a mind of your own. 

Women like it.

And when you disagree with her, be sure to teach her as well. Don’t just disagree with your woman. Teach her. 

Show her what you mean and how you want things done. 

7. Be sexy as hell

Never suppress your desire to have sex with a woman. 

Doing so only makes you look very desperate. At the core of every woman, she knows that men desire to have sex; she knows that most of the men she meets want to have sex with her. 

You don’t have to be in denial about your desire for sex. You don’t have to be a knight in shining armor. 

There’s really no need to pretend like you’re not interested in sex. Even she knows that you are, and you should make this as clear as possible, but not too clear that you begin to seem desperate and just driven by sex. 

Read: Things to Say to a Woman to Make Her Longing for You

8. Know when to hit on her

The man who must make it to the top of her list must be the man who understands exactly how time works, especially in the context of relationships. 

Know when to go ahead and when to pause. 

Be the different guy. She wants that one. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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