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How to Masturbate for Men

by | Sensual Intimacy

Jun 19, 2024

Self-pleasure doesn’t have to be a rushed thing for men. It shouldn’t be that one thing you just do to get things over with on a stressful day. It should be something you come to really enjoy, and in this article, we will be trying to make that such a huge reality for you. Here is how to masturbate right, a seven-step guide for men to attain pleasurable moments solo.

1. Get in the mood

When it comes to sexual pleasure, you have to be in the mood. If you rush the mood, you will not get as much pleasure as you desire. This is just the way it is. 

And should you get even little pleasure, the sour mood will sooner or later drown it all away. 

Getting in the mood is simple; you just have to:

Feel Safe:

Feeling safe in the bedroom is one of the best ways to attain pleasure. This has got to show up as both mental and emotional safety. Your mind has to agree with what is going on. It has to be open to the idea that self pleasure is a normal thing that everyone should chase after without feeling bad about it. 

Don’t feel bad about you wanting to pleasure yourself. Feel good about it even. 

Lam, one of our readers, agrees that sexual activity is a lot better when one can look forward to the pleasure they will get from it. 

“When I look forward to having sex with my partner,” he says: “That sex ends up being one of the best sex ever. I don’t even know how it works, but it’s amazing.”

Pick the Right Lighting:

If your lighting is too bright, it can mess with your feelings of pleasure. If you want to feel a lot of pleasure, go for light that doesn’t hurt your eyes or make you feel a little too self-aware. 

Self awareness is a good thing sometimes, but when one begins to feel like they’re in a spotlight even when they’re in thier own bed, then one should consider turning down the lights. 

Choose the Right Music:

The right music can be what separates you from an orgasm.  A lot of guys agree that music that puts thoughts in their heads makes masturbating easier and better. 

Find that kind of music. If none is on your mind, you can search for a sex playlist on your music provider. 

Read: How to Get an Erection

2. Put thoughts in your head

Masturbation may be a thing of the body. But trust me, just like sex, your mind has got to be involved. 

Feed your mind the most erotic thoughts. You can get these by reading erotic books, seeing erotic movies, porn, or may even thinking about your partner or any other person you have sexual feelings for. 

Liam says: “Masturbating with a sexual partner stuck at the back of my head hits differently. I really do love it, and I cannot tell why. I have to admit most men do love it, too.”

Most men do!

3. Choose the right position

When it comes to masturbating, position does matter. Some guys have it better when they stand. Others have it better when they are sitting. It is left for you to choose which works for you. 

But know this: the right position is not going to stress you unduly or make you too aware of the fact that you are trying to masturbate. 

I recommend sitting with your legs spread out. But you can do what works for you. 

I recommend you take off your clothes as well. Masturbating with your clothes on is just too far away from sex. It begins to feel weird. 

Read: Tips for Getting and Staying Hard

4. Choose the right lube

You will need lube as a guy. You cannot possibly masturbate with your bare hands, can you? I have heard that there are guys who do this. I would want to know what it feels like really, if there is pain or any form of discomfort. 

Either way, I believe lube is always better. 

Derrick, our reader who has had experiences with both lube less and lube full masturbation, admits that masturbation is better with lube. It is much better. 

The right lube is going to be soft on your penile skin.  There will be no form of reaction, no matter how small. There is also not going to be a scent that is too strong for you. The right lube is going to be just right. 

5. Rub lube over your dick, and begin to stroke

Rub some lube over your dick and begin to stroke. Make sure the lube is smeared evenly, so that there is not even an inch of your dick that can get caught in the heat of friction.  

Now, begin to stroke. Be sure that you stroke to a rhythm. Stroking without a rhythm can make it look too far from sex. 

Stroke every part of your penis, especially parts that take you deeper into pleasure. 

Don’t be scared to touch your erroneous zones too. These zones can amplify what you feel. For example, touching your nipples while you stroke your penis can be a game changer for you. 

Ubong says: “Touching your penis and other zones on your body can be such a great way to make masturbation better.”

Also, be sure to make sure that you touch the entirety of your shaft. Touch your entire penile shaft. 

Read: How to Have Orgasms During Your Sleep

6. Move your legs

It may seem like a very small and minuscule thing to do, but moving your legs is also such a powerful move when you are masturbating. 

It can make your body actually believe you are having sex. Once your body believes that, your feelings of pleasure will be unhinged 

7. Moan

Yes, making sounds can further make you believe that you are actually having sex. Some men find moaning especially helpful. I believe it can help you too 

Masturbating is great when you know how to do it right. 

By Martin Corden

Martin Corden is a certified relationship expert and a songwriter from Australia. He loves researching and writing. Martin loves finding new ways to improve and inspires others to be their best version and work together towards it. Martin has a wide range of intellectual and artistic interests.

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