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How to Make Her Keep Coming Back for More

by | Love

May 13, 2024

A lot of guys only have sex with a pretty woman once. This is because they mess things up before the woman has the chance to come back. Some of these messes are either sexual, physical, or emotional messes. But the truth is the woman doesn’t come back. In this article, I’ll be showing how to make sure every woman you have sex with keeps coming back for more. 

1. Let her

Yes, you should let her. The truth is that the relationship dynamic flips by 180° after sex happens.  

Before sex, the man is usually in a softer masculine role.  

In other words, his masculinity is not so pronounced because he’s in the stage where he has to care. 

A stage where he has to nudge the woman closer to himself by being kind and nice. 

After sex happens, it is expected that the man takes on a 100% masculine role. 

From being the one who constantly reaches out, the man has to pull back so that the woman is the one who reaches out to him. 

A lot of women are very antagonistic to this flip, and they try to make it look like the man had blackmailed them or that the man had used them for their bodies. 

But this isn’t the case at all. 

This doesn’t mean you have used a woman. It just means you’ve entered into a masculine role, and she has entered into a very feminine role, where she becomes the one to seek you out.   

A few minutes to hours after the sex happens or after she has just left your place, text her and tell her to let you know when she has arrived at her house. 

If you both desire, you can talk about the sex for a while, after which you just pull away. 

She has to become the one who reaches out from that point. She has to be the one who starts at least 80% of the conversations, and she has to be the one who tries to push the relationship further. 

This is going to make her desire you very much and is going to make her keep coming back. 

Read: Things women are attracted to in men

2. Don’t stop flirting

If you want to keep a woman coming back to you after sex, then you don’t have to stop flirting with her. 

Women respond to emotions. As long as a woman feels something, you’re going to expect a response from her. 

If you no longer see a response from her, it is because there’s no emotion she’s responding to. Or she has just dislodged herself from any kind of emotional responses. 

Make her respond emotionally by flirting with her constantly.   

Most of the flirting is going to happen online, but if you can, and when you have the chance, take the flirting into real life. 

To flirt with her online, all you have to do is get better at texting. Text her erotic poetry. Get better at making her wet whenever you want. Get better at talking to her late at night, and don’t stop talking about sex with her.  

3. Love bomb her

Sexual relationships, especially relationships that don’t involve love, are usually quite manipulative because both of you would likely be engaged in a game. 

Don’t hate the game. Like I’ve always said, nobody should hate the game. Everybody should at least learn how to play the game. It’s in playing the game that you get better, and you get to love the game.  

You also get to bump at all the reactions you seek.

Love bomb her every now and then, especially during periods where you want sex to happen again.  

For example, if you have been speaking to her for one hour every day, if you seek to have sex with her in the following days or weeks, you can begin texting her loads and giving her so much love and affection days before you want the sex to happen.

You may feel like this is going to push her away, but it’s actually not. It’s going to make her even more interested because now she feels like the guy who has been so distant has gotten really close. 

4. Invite her over

Invite her over to your house. After the first sex, most of the dates that should follow should not be outdoor dates

She doesn’t even want outdoor dates with you anymore because she has come to trust you enough to have sex with you. 

Ask to be on the date with her, but this time the date should be in her house or yours. 

Make sure she doesn’t forget in a hurry. Make sure that the lighting is perfect and the mood is right and that the environment in itself is surging with so much sexual tension

I have walked into rooms and immediately known that sex was going to happen. This is because the rooms were usually very serene, calm, and just electrifying.  

This is how you wanted to set up your date with her. Immediately, she walks in; she should be able to tell that you both are going to have sex.

5. Have passionate sex

The truth is if you’re going to have a woman come back for sex, you will not only need to improve your emotional and psychological hold on her. 

You also need to improve your sexual hold on her. This means you have to pay a lot of attention to sex when you have sex with her. 

You don’t have to be the selfish guy who seeks your own pleasure all the time. In that moment when you have sex, seek her own pleasure as well. 

Be nasty enough to explore her kinks. 

Women always go back to guys who can explore their kinks. This is because women are quite secretive and somewhat embarrassed about their deepest desires in bed.

Be that guy who frees them of that embarrassment—the guy who explores their bodies. The guy who makes sex everything sex should be, and a woman will always keep coming back for sure. 

You can have every woman you sleep with coming back for more. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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