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How to Make Her Feel Sexual Pleasure

by | Sensual Intimacy

Aug 1, 2023

What if someone walked up to you and gave you keys that ensure you never again have bad sex? I am guessing you will take these keys and pay attention to every detail concerning how to use them. We want you to do that with this article. It is a key we call: How to make her feel sexual pleasure.

1. Get in Her Head

The first and unspoken rule about pleasing a woman is getting in her head. That is to say: her thoughts. 

I have seen that women like to think. Or better put: overthink. It gives them some kind of pleasure. 

Get in her head, at least to the point where she thinks about you a lot, sometimes even getting worried about you. This will mean staying away from her every once in a while. 

Or just giving her gifts. This is how you stay on a woman’s mind. 

2. Get in her Emotions

After you have gotten into her thoughts, the next place you belong is in her emotions. 

Many women have agreed that it is harder to feel sexual pleasure from a man with whom they do not share any emotional connection.

Nene told us: “I do not think it is possible to feel pleasure from a man who is not in my heart. I mean, I may love the sex. But I am sure I will not feel it as much as I should.”

Getting in her emotions makes her calm enough to embrace the pleasure you can offer her.

It is easy to get in a woman’s emotions. But I tell you this: you will never find your way there by being a nice guy. Nice guys do not appeal to women emotionally. Be yourself.

Read: How to Give Rhythm to Your Strokes

3. Make Her Lust After You

In a way, every intense emotion can be translated into pleasure. This is why people who are trying to be happy often do stuff that takes them to extremes of the emotional spectrum. 

Women like Kaisla have told us that lust in itself is pleasurable. 

“I do not know how, but I feel intense pleasure when I am lusting after a man. There are times when I just sit there and wonder what it will feel like when we have sex. Sometimes I even go as far as masturbating while thinking about him.” 

Imagine pleasuring a woman this way without even being there.

4. Prioritize Her Pleasure

Men who want to pleasure women must be ready to pay attention to the pleasures of these women. This is a task that sometimes does not come easy. But you should try. 

When next you get down with your woman, make a conscious effort to bring her into an intense place of pleasure, where her moans float in the air, and you can tell she really is feeling you.

Read: 10 Signs She’s Faking an Orgasm

5. Get Better at Foreplay

Men who must pleasure women do not have the option of ignoring foreplay. As a blog, we cannot emphasize how important foreplay is—for you and for her. 

Foreplay is where most of the learning about her body is going to happen. So, get great at it. Learn how to kiss better—it is beyond the scope of this article to teach you how to kiss, so check out this. 

Learn how to give her great head too. Good head has to make her jerk and moan. Good head has to make her think about you for long after the sex has ended. 

6. Get Better at Sex

Understand this one thing about sex: pain and dissatisfaction are what make sex awful. 

You get better at sex when you can reduce these feelings completely. Be sure that she does not feel any pain when you are inside her. This will mean you keep her lubricated. You should always consider using lube with a woman who gets dry easily, as lube is able to reduce friction and hence, pain. 

You should also be sure that she is not dissatisfied. This is done by making sure all her kinks are explored. Ask your woman what her kinks are and try to explore them whenever you both get down.

Read: 10 Ways to Last Longer in Bed

7. Show Her that She Pleasures You

You can make a woman feel sexual pleasure by showing her that she makes you feel pleasure. The thing about pleasure is that pleasure has some positive feedback effect on us. 

The more it rains, the more a river overflows. 

The more you show her that you feel pleasure from having sex with her, the more pleasure she is going to feel. This is a trick most guys don’t know about. 

Moan more; I don’t think it to be a thing for women. Show her that you feel this too,

8. Try out Spontaneous Sex

We have an article dedicated to discussing the interesting subject of spontaneous sex. You might want to check it out. But in the meantime, here is what you should know: 

– Spontaneous sex is sex that has not been planned for.

– Spontaneous sex seems to carry more emotion than regular sex. 

When you have sex in public, or wherever there is the fear of being caught, for example, your emotions seem to be on their toes. That is such a great feeling if you want to be ‘full’ of pleasure. 

Make her feel more pleasure by initiating spontaneous sex more often.

Read: What is Spontaneous Sex? 10 Ways to Have Spontaneous Sex

9. Don’t Have Sex Too Often

It is not a bad thing for couples to have sex too often. But if you want the flavor of pleasure to remain on your tongues, you have to have less sex. 

Let sex be that thing that never loses its essence because it has been repeated over and over.

Let sex be something you look forward to. 

10. Be you; do you

In all, you have to be you. You should not try to be someone else. Be you, and she will feel sexual pleasure and safety being with you.


The art of pleasuring one’s partner is one that all romantic couples have to learn. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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