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How to Make a Girl Cum

by | Sensual Intimacy

Jul 11, 2023

We at whatsdalatest do not want you to be that guy who tells himself girls fake it when they cum. We want you to be the guy who makes his woman cum every time he meets with her in bed. Want to be that guy? Here is how to make a girl cum:

1. Don’t Rush

Rushed sex is often going to be bad sex. And I do not mean quickies because quickies are supposed to be rushed since they rely mostly on the momentary thrill. 

Sex between couples should not be rushed. This means that everything from start to finish ought to be well calculated. 

Choose the right time of the day or night for the sex to happen. Choose a time when you both wouldn’t be in haste. 

Read: How to Finger a Girl | 10 Fingering Tips

2. Set the Mood Right

Just as there is a mood for dates and every other pleasurable thing you will do together, there is a mood for sex. 

Imagine going out on a date with your woman that takes place at the train station. Imagine how all that noise is going to make things incredibly weird. 

That’s exactly how sex will be if you don’t set the right mood for it. 

Contrary to what most guys think, the right mood is not walked into. Of course, there may be times then it is. But here is the thing; the right mood is made. 

Make it by playing some music in the background. By making her laugh. By turning her on with a kiss on her neck or a gentle rub on her thighs. 

You can get more creative and watch some movies. Check out this article which contains a list of movies to get you and your partner in the mood for all the orgasms you deserve. 

3. Kisses and Some More Kisses

One of the reasons women find it harder to cum compared to men is that women are not as sexually driven as men. 

What that means is that if a woman had to choose between sex and an intense emotional connection, she most likely would choose the emotional connection. 

This is not to say women hate sex. It is to say that they think sex is a means by which one can establish an emotional connection. 

So, get her to enjoy sex, at least to that point where she cums; you have got to get in her head and mind with a kiss. 

French kisses bring her really close to her emotional side, and you know for sure that when she opens up, it is going to be amazing. 

Read: How to Have The Best Sex Ever

4. Give Her Head

Women love to give head, I know. But do you know what they love even more than that? They love to receive head!

If properly done, head can have a woman jerking, trying to slam her legs shut. Here’s a trick I learned for when women try to slam their legs shut: put your palms against her thighs and press down gently so she is unable to move. 

Let the fullness of pleasure course through her pelvis. Orgasms happen for women when they feel a rush of fullness. 

5 women described orgasms to us as that feeling of fullness. So, women know that a man who can feel them up with pleasure can easily make them cum. 

Check out this article to learn how to give the best head she is ever going to get from anyone. 

5. Yoni Massages

After the tongue has done its work, the fingers ought to join in and do it better. 

Your fingers can make her scream, I am telling you. 

There’s a trick I learned that works every time. It involves pushing two of your fingers into her vagina (be sure that they are clean and properly lubricated). Now, bend both fingers at the knuckles so that the ball of your fingers comes in contact with something which feels like a rough ridge. 

Rub on this rough ridge for some time and then let go. 

This makes a lot of women go wild with moans. Now, with your thumb and your index finger, rub at her clitoris until she begins to scream your name.  

Read: How To Build Up Tension Before Sex

6. First Stroke and First Position Matter 

If you want to make a woman cum, then you have to try as much as you can to make the first stroke painless. 

You pull this off in a number of ways:

  • Be sure she is well relaxed. This means choosing the right position. The ideal first position is usually the missionary. The doggy is going to feel too deep for her, and things are going to get weird. 
  • Lube. You just have to stay lubricated so that your penis goes into her without any friction, which usually results in pain.  

7. Keep Your Rhythm

If you are going to go fast, then go fast. If you are going to go slow, then go slow. 

Nothing upsets women more than a man who does not know his stroke game. 

Your stroke game is the best game in your sex life. Keep the rhythm. Do not think that it is you who regulates the rhythm of the sex. It’s not to you. It’s the sex itself. 

Go fast when things get intense. You will feel this intensity. You will hear it in her voice. You will see it in how she clenches the bedding and rolls her eyes back. 

Go slower when things are more emotive than intense. I know for a fact that women connect more when there is eye contact during slow sex. Who knows, she might just cum then. 

Read: 10 Best Places to Have Sex

8. Don’t Stop When You Feel the Clenching

The muscles of her vagina are most likely going to clench when she is nearing an orgasm. Many times, a woman will try to get away from you at this point. 

She will moan louder, spasm harder, and try to move away. You know, anything to keep you from stroking. 

But the strokes have to come. Keep stroking. Get the perfect angles by changing positions. 


She’s going to cum if you know what to do. 

By Ubong

Ubong Johnson is a medic, writer, and editor whose writings explore the complexities of human interactions. He has been published on The Healing Muse, a journal by Upstate Medical University, Blood and Thunder, a journal from Oklahoma University Medical College, and other journals of humanities. Ubong lives in Lagos and is currently undergoing training as a behavioral psychologist.

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