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How to Hit on and Have Sex With a Cougar

by | Sensual Intimacy

Sep 26, 2023

You love cougars, don’t you? I am certain the answer is yes. I am also certain you are seeking to bed one but don’t know how to go about it. In this article, I will be giving you practical tips to help you hit on and have sex with a cougar in only a matter of days to weeks.

1. Identify the Cougar

Leave no room for mistakes. If you have mistaken a non-cougar to be a cougar, you are going to mess a lot of things up. So you have got to be sure the woman you have got your eyes on is really a cougar.

Here is an article that went live in Whatsdalatest a while ago, which is going to prove helpful if you still don’t know how to identify a cougar

2. Understand the Concept of Polarity

The concept of polarity is something you have probably encountered in your science classes. Surprisingly, it has its place when you study sexuality and sexual attraction. 

There are two polar extremes when it comes to sex. There is the man, and there is the woman. That is to say, there is masculine, and then there is feminine.

The one who is very masculine is going to be very attracted to the one who is feminine, just as the one who is feminine will be attracted to the one who is masculine. 

Understanding this concept of polarity is going to help you enter into a fitting role when you approach a cougar.

Read: 10 Things That Turn Women On

3. Be Masculine

Although a lot of dating coaches advise against being very masculine around a cougar, I don’t think this is good advice. 

Here is why: a cougar is, at her core, a very feminine woman. She may have some masculine sides, but she is feminine. I say this because a lot of cougars have been observed to be nurturers. 

Liam, who has been with many cougars in the past, says they turned out to be one of the most caring people he has ever met. 

“She cared for me as though I was her baby. She was mummy, and I was baby.” 

Any woman who makes you feel like a baby is more tilted to her feminine side than she is to her masculine side.

4. Dress Good

Cougars are not women in colleges. There is such a big disparity between both sets of women. While younger women may dismiss many things, letting many things slide, older women will not.

They will pay attention to how you dress and may look away from you the moment you come up to them dressed badly. 

Get yourself the best clothes you can find. Get yourself an amazing haircut. 

Wear the perfect cologne. 

This way, you stand a better chance of being noticed by them. 

5. Be Noticed

Cougars are true pickers. I will tell you this for free.

They do not go around looking for a guy who is going to toss them some crumbs of attention. 

Instead, they look around for that guy who catches their interest. And when they have spotted him, they call to him with mannerisms until he gets the point that they are interested in him.

Be that guy that they notice. The best way to be noticed by a cougar is to be quiet. Quietness makes a woman feel safe. I have talked about this in detail in previous articles. 

She interprets your being quiet as being discrete. And you know that one thing that turns every cougar on? Discreteness. This is a key to having sex with a cougar.

Read: How to Have Sex with a Friend

6. Get the Cue

When she has noticed you, she is going to call out to you. I know this for a fact because I have seen it happen one too many times. 

When she calls, do not stall. 

Let’s say she is in your gym facility and has taken an interest in you. She may call you by asking that you come help her. 

When a cougar asks you for help, you should interpret it as a green light. Of course, she is able to do whatever she wants on her own. Her inviting you to help only means she is inviting you to be a part of her world. 

7. Approach and Begin Well

When you approach her—that is to say, hit on her—you should be sure that you are doing all the right stuff from the start. 

This means starting well. Offer her a compliment. You can say it wearing a smile. Depending on how she strikes you, the compliment can be very innocent, or it can be sexual.

Be sure to water down the effect of the compliment with a brittle laugh so she doesn’t sense desperation. Cougars can sniff desperation from miles away and will usually prey on it. 

Read: How to Make a Booty Call

8. Get to Know Each Other

This is going to work just the way it works when you are dating someone your age. 

Storytellers often say: “Let every sentence push the story forward.”

I am saying: “Let every conversation you have with a cougar push your interaction with her forward. Let it make her a lot more interested in you: let her make her want to be around you.”

This can be summarized into two words: be fun!

You can be fun by making yourself into a challenge: some kind of puzzle she has got to uncover.

If a cougar finds you challenging, she is going to want to be around you more.

9. Allow the Motherly Instincts Kick In

Yes, you have got to get her into that state where it is everything except masculine. 

Provide her the room to be herself, such that her sexual side and her motherly side show up.

When this happens, you should be confident in this; you are going to bed her. I am very sure about this.

Read: 10 Simple Ways to Overcome Dating Anxiety

10. Break the Touch Barrier

Yes, you have got to break the touch barrier in order to have sex with a cougar. Don’t do this too early, or she is going to feel insulted. Do it too late, and she is going to lose interest!



Cougars will almost always call to you. It is your responsibility to get yourself noticed.

By Ubong

Ubong Johnson is a medic, writer, and editor whose writings explore the complexities of human interactions. He has been published on The Healing Muse, a journal by Upstate Medical University, Blood and Thunder, a journal from Oklahoma University Medical College, and other journals of humanities. Ubong lives in Lagos and is currently undergoing training as a behavioral psychologist.

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