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How to Have Sex on Your First Date

by | Sensual Intimacy

Sep 27, 2023

Your first date will usually end how you want it to, but only if you understand the dynamics of dating and know to do what you are supposed to without any mistakes. Play your cards right, and you are sure going to have sex. And not just sex: good sex, too. Here is how to have sex on your first date: 

1. Seduction begins outside the date

The seduction phase is what determines everything. If you have got the seduction phase properly executed, you should be certain that the sex is going to happen. 

The seduction phase is mainly a phase of hinting. Here, you hint to the woman that you have got some romantic interest in her. You may even hint that you have got a sexual interest as well.

She is to pick up these hints herself and be lost in a world of mystery. She is to question whether or not she is getting the right interpretation of your signals.

This is called the Mystery Method of getting women to have sex with you. The more questions she has in mind about you and your interest in her, the more likely she is to want to be in bed with you.

2. Get things going fast

When one drives slowly, they tend to more less control of the car. But when they drive fast, this control diminishes. Thus, it is safe to assume that the car now has more control over the driver. 

Consider relationships to be a car. She is the driver. You are the car itself. As long as you take things slow, she is going to have a lot of control. But the moment you decide you will be speeding things up, she is going to lose this control, and you will then be in the power place.

From the moment you get her number and begin texting her, speed things up. Get her in your zone. And trust me, when the date eventually happens, you are going to have sex on your first date. 

Read: How to Have Sex with a Friend

3. Make her feel so comfortable she lets go

This is going to have to happen during the date itself and outside the date. You have got to make her feel so comfortable she no longer has to care about whether she is going to be judged or not. 

You see, a lot of women decline sex on the first date, not because they are not horny or anything. They do so because they are afraid of being judged.

Let her know the kind of man you are: let her see that no matter what happens, you are not going to judge her. 

You may even tell her a story about first dates and the sex that happens then. Bring it to her mind that you do not judge anyone who chooses to have sex on their first date. 

If she buys into this and lets her defenses down, then she is surely going to have sex with you on the first date.

4. Take advantage of her biology

Have you ever heard the saying that doctors make the best playboys? I have. And weirdly so, I have had to deal with that stereotype. 

I used to be a bit offended by it, though, until I sat back and thought: why do doctors get this much sex? The answer is in the understanding of a woman’s biology. 

If you are smart enough to set your first date on the date of her ovulation, then be sure you are going to get sex. This is because a woman is usually very horny when she ovulates.

She will easily give in to having sex with you. 

How do you find out when she is ovulating? Well, simple. Ask if she is on her period. Suggest that you sense something different about her mood. 

She will say yes if she is on her period and no if she is not. If not, ask her when she last saw her period. Calculate 14 days from that date, and viola, she is going to be ovulating that period.

Read: How to Hit on and Have Sex With a Cougar

5. Set the date for somewhere enclosed

The point is to make her feel very comfortable. You don’t have to set a first date, ever, at a place where she is not free to be herself. She has got to be free, man. She has got to be able to laugh at your jokes and reciprocate all the shots you are shooting at her. 

I suggest you take her to some fancy restaurant where she can have wine. The first date should be a statement. It should be one that says: “Hey, look, I want you to know I can make your life fancy.”

If she is impressed by you, she will try to impress you. It is the basic thing about women every guy should know. An impressed woman will not stop trying to impress her man.

6. Late evening dates do the trick

One of the best ways ever to get her to have sex with you on the first date is to set the date late in the evening. 

The mere fact that she agrees to even come around that late means she has some romantic interest in you and is likely looking forward to the sex herself.

You may even suggest what she puts on. Women love it so much when their man suggests what they should put on. I know this for a fact. Suggest she puts on something fancy, something short. If she agrees to, then she sure wants to have sex with you.

Read: 10 Things That Turn Women On

7. Have fun

Yes, don’t let yourself zone out. Have the time of your life. Be confident. Look her in the eye when you speak; be fun as well. Tell jokes that make her laugh.

Get her to feel vulnerable. Ask questions. And, most importantly, break the touch barrier.

8. Invite her over

Let this be a suggestion. Something like: “Hey, it is getting late. You could come crash at my place.”

If she comes? Then, set things in the mood and initiate sex. 

Check out this article to find out how to set things in the mood.

Read: How to Stop Being Horny


Having sex on your first date is sure if you have the composure and charisma.

By QuietYearning Editors

The QuietYearning Team covers everything from relationships to lifestyle to parenting and more. Its team of experts provides in-depth analysis that helps you understand complex topics on relationships.

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