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How to Have Phone Sex: 10 Tips to Make Men Horny From Just Listening to You

by | Sensual Intimacy

Jan 14, 2023

Having phone sex is way easier these days. You can do just about anything with your long-distance partner, even have phone sex with them. In this article, we share how to have phone sex. These ten tips will make men horny (your man) from just listening to you or texting you.

1. Have a Connection With Him First

You do not expect to turn on a man who is not connected to you somehow. You have to get him connected. And thankfully, having a man feel connected to you is fairly easy. 

You just have to talk to him long enough to have him open up to you. Men like to guard their feelings. So when he starts to talk to you about his true feelings, he will grow very connected to you. 

2. Get Him Sexually Attracted to You

Sadly, a connection does not always mean sexual attraction. Sometimes, even friends are connected. For you to turn him on, you have to make sure he is sexually attracted to you

You can do this by teasing him. Teasing a man is just making him enter his true masculine state, where he wants you. Just you. 

There are a lot of women in the world. What is special about you? What do you have that will make him feel drawn? Show him this. 

Tease him. Show you all you must to let him see he is supposed to be attracted to you. 

Read: How to Tell a Guy Has a Boner

3. Ask For Consent

Phone sex, like real sex, is not to be done without the other person’s consent. It can come off as offensive. And if he isn’t one who is open-minded enough, he may feel so offended that reporting your social media pages may cross his mind. 

Of course, you do not necessarily have to be straight about it. When it comes to issues concerning sex, I like to be subtle about it. You can say something along the lines of: “Hey, would you want me to make you feel things you have never felt over the phone?”

The main purpose of asking for consent is to make him more open to the idea and more comfortable. 

4. Get in The Mood Yourself

If your phone sex is going to feel as great as you want him to, then you have to get in the mood yourself. 

Getting in the mood does not mean being horny. Getting in the mood means getting yourself ready to feel pleasure from what you are about to do while making a mental note to make him enjoy it as well. 

Sophie told us: “Phone sex feels better when I do not try too hard to get in the mood. When I am already in the mood, it just goes on for way longer and feels way better than I could have wanted it to.” (Read: How to Make Out: 10 Secrets to Having the Best Make Out Sessions)

5. Take it Slow

Turning on a man is nothing like turning on a switch. You do not just flip and boom; he is itching to have phone sex with you. 

You take it slow. 

I suggest you ask what he is putting on. And then tell him what you are putting on. And then, you both progress to other areas. 

During phone sex, as I will discuss subsequently, you will have to ask a lot of questions. 

Asking him questions make him familiar with what he is doing, just like answering his does. 

6. Be Confident

You, of course, have to be confident about what you are doing. The truth is: confidence is such a huge turn-on for both men and women, especially when it comes to an activity they are trying to explore for the first time. 

If he feels weird about it, you are to confidently guide him through the activity. But not in a way that makes him feel loved. 

Have you ever heard that the best way to turn a man on is to give him love with big confidence? 

Read: 10 Squirting Orgasm Secrets to Make Yourself Squirt

7. Your Language Matters so Much

This is especially if you are just sexting or having sex over the phone. 

You should literally steal his heart and turn him on with your language. 

To work on your language, you will need the help of novels or erotica audiobooks. I know for a fact that women who excel at phone sex read a lot of novels or at least listen to them. 

Focus on verbs—your adjectives as well. He should be able to visualize what you are saying to him. And maybe even imagine what you say you will make him feel. 

8. Talk Dirty to Him, About Yourself

This is only if he is the kind of guy who loves his women a bit dirty. 

Talk dirty to him. 

Call yourself names you are sure will turn him on. For example, you can say: “Do you like this “slut” of yours?”

Say it, whispering. It is important to add that voice tone goes a long way to turn on guys. If your voice is very gentle, like a whisper, I assure you that he is going to be turned on by you. 

Even in real life, whispering, especially when you are close to the person’s ear, can turn them on! Works the same way for phone sex. (Read: 10 Best Selfie Poses for Girls and Guys)

9. Ask Him Questions

Yes, during phone sex, questions go a long way. They can make him feel like you are right there, present. 

Ask him questions along the lines of:

  • Would you love to have all this body for yourself?
  • What would you do if I was there right now?
  • Do you like being licked down there?

You know, questions that stimulate him so much. If you want to, you can call him teasing names. 

10. Go with the Flow

Yes! Just go with the flow. If you do it right, phone sex will turn on just about any man. 

By Emilie Schleif

Emilie Schleif is a Lifestyle Writer at Whatsdalatest, where she covers all things relationships and wellness—born and raised in La Canada Flintridge. She currently lives in Hamburg and loves running, hiking, and walking with her dog, Jasper.

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