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How to Have Good Foreplay

by | Sensual Intimacy

Apr 22, 2024

Foreplay is one of the best parts of sex. Most men and women agree that it makes sex a lot better and can have an effect on how long sex lasts. In this article, I will be showing you how to have good foreplay and enjoy every minute of your sex life.

1. There are no rules

This is one of the first things anyone who seeks to have good sex all the time must come to understand. You make your own decisions in your own bedroom. No one can say: never do this, or never do that. There are no rules so strong they make their way into the bedroom. 

When next you give your partner foreplay, do it the way you want. 

2. Less pain is always best

Though pain and pleasure can sometimes exist in the same place, one should be careful not to overlook the extent to which pain can drown pleasure.

Foreplay is supposed to be an intimate moment, and as such, pain should be absent. 

Try as much as you can to avoid areas of your partner’s body that can elicit a pain response. For example, when a man feels teeth on his penis during a blow job, he usually concludes it is bad foreplay. 

3. Don’t be scared to get messy

This is especially true when giving a guy foreplay. Women tend to be too careful and don’t want to get messy. But the guys don’t mind. A guy is fine with you being messy as long as it brings him pleasure.

In fact, with many guys, the messier, the better. 

Jimmy told us: “I like it when blowjobs are very messy. That is to say, when I am receiving a blow job, I want to see a lot of spit.”

Spit is a natural lubricant. A lot of men think so, and you should, too. 

4. Be in the moment

Your mind should not be elsewhere when you give a blow job or head. The people who have the best foreplay are people who have taught their minds to be in the moment and enjoy what is happening. 

A blow job is a very sensual thing. Foreplay in general. It doesn’t only excite your body. It excites your mind as well. Allow your mind to be throbbed. Be in that mood, in that space, in that cloud. 

Nothing beats that cloud 9 feeling.  

Read: How to achieve a full body orgasm

5. Kisses are amazing

What is foreplay without kisses? If you are ever going to have good foreplay, you must learn how to have good kisses

A good kiss is not necessarily one that lasts long or one that makes one get in the mood. It is one that makes one want to continue. To keep going. A good kiss is a kiss that has an emotional tethering. 

It has to pull someone in, so that they are able to feel their own emotions as though these emotions are in the palm of their hands. 

6. Toys can be fun

Foreplay is usually best with toys. This is especially true if you are dating a woman who is quite freaky. And even if you aren’t, you can make her freaky enough. 

Get some toys. A dildo is an easier option for beginners, and for people who are halfway out of being beginners, a butt plug can prove to be the best thing that enters your hands. 

Toys can and should be fun. Since sex is mostly about learning, learn to make your partner feel things as you use toys on them. Never goes wrong. 

7. The “69” position

Many people like to see the 69 position as a sex position, but I don’t. I see it as a secondary form of foreplay. And it is such a great form. In the 69 position, you do a lot of figuring each other out because you both are doing the same thing to each other. 

The 69 position is an easy one to figure out, even if you haven’t tried it out before. 

The man lays his back, and the woman lays on her tummy on top of him. More like in the plank position. She lies in a way that makes his dick dangle in her face. That way, she is able to give him head while also getting head as well. 

8. Explore fetishes, and don’t be shy to

The truth is: a lot of fetishes are actually to be explored during foreplay and not during sex itself. 

Foreplay offers you the opportunity to explore your man’s fetishes. A lot of men like to be rimmed and milked. 

Ask your man if he likes any of these done to him. If his reponse is yes, then you have got your go-ahead and should explore all his fetishes with him. 

This has helped a lot of couples I know of.

9. Play a foreplay game

Sex is a game sometimes, a very beautiful game most men and women love to play. Make foreplay with your partner a game. 

It should be a game that dares the other partner. 

One of the most popular is the trivia game, where one asks their partner a question, and if this partner does not know the answer, they have to accomplish a task. 

You can say: “If you fail to answer this question, then you have to suck my dick for a few minutes.”

Another game I really like is the: “Do not moan game.”

In this game, you give your partner a blow job or head for a long time, daring them not to moan. 

This is usually very intense; most of the people who have played it agree. 

10. Get Creative

This is where you be yourself. Do you, and let your partner do them. Be in the moment and love every minute of this moment. 


There are no rules. As long as you both are open sexually to each other, you can do the wildest things to each other. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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