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How to Flirt with Compliments

by | Dating Tips, Meeting People, Moving On

Jun 5, 2024

Ever wondered how to flirt easily even when you may not know the other person that well? Compliments! Compliments make flirting seamless and easy, such that the one who is being flirted with almost never feels uncomfortable. In this article, we explore how to flirt with compliments. We explore these in three phases: the timing, the compliment, and the delivery. 

1. The Timing

The timing of a compliment can make it very effective during flirting or just drown it. 

If you place the compliment at the wrong time, it could go sour.

Place it right, and you’ll have her swooning. 

The best times to drop that compliment are:

The first interaction

Many guys and ladies do not know that flirting can happen at the very minute you meet someone. 

You don’t have to wait if you’re great at flirting. 

The best time to deliver a flirtatious compliment is the first few minutes after your first interaction. 

In fact, flirtatious compliments should be what starts the interaction. 

Say, you see a lady you like and would want to be with. You walk up to her, and you compliment her in a way that strikes an emotional reaction. 

You compliment something visible on her body—visible but not too visible—something most people won’t notice. 

“Hey, I couldn’t keep my eyes off the curl of your hair. Could swear my stomach was curling as I watched.”

Read: How to Compliment a Woman’s Body

As a means to fill spaces

The truth is, no matter how well you rapport with someone, there will be times when spaces show up in your conversations. 

Times when there is just this air of silence. When this happens, it may be time to slip in some compliments. 

The space accentuates the effect of compliments, driving them in. 

Say you were talking, and suddenly, there’s nothing left to say; you can fill that awkward moment with a compliment drawn from something around you. 

You can say something like: “That bright sky over there reminds me of you. And the way you smile.”

Just before breaking the touch barrier

The touch barrier is often very taut in the early parts of interactions. But as time passes, it becomes less and less taut until it is on the verge of breaking. 

A good flirtatious compliment can be the saw that hacks the touch barrier in two. 

Deliver one that is sharp and cutting just before moving in to touch her. 

You can say something like, “Sometimes I wonder if your skin is real. Forgive me, but” lean in closer. “I just had to touch.” 

Now, sigh and say something very funny. “Oops. It is real. I should have known.”

Just before leaving

Every gentleman knows that you don’t leave a date without leaving a compliment behind. 

When next you go on a date with your woman and it is time to leave, flirt with her using a very specific and personal compliment.  

You can say something like: “It felt nice spending the night with an angel. I hope to see you soon.”

It is important that you leave compliments in moments when there is much emotional tension. This tension drives them even better. 

Read: 10 proven ways to flirt with a girl

2. The Compliment

If you’re going to flirt with compliments, these compliments are going to have to pass three criteria. 

They don’t have to be creepy

When you’re flirting with a compliment, you have to make sure that the compliment isn’t creepy. 

Creepy compliments create an unhealthy sense of awareness in someone. 

Suddenly, this person who had been comfortable about their dress or gown starts to feel aware of all the things wrong with that gown. 

If your compliment has that effect, it may be time to learn how to give proper compliments. 

They have to trigger or expose desire

When you are flirting with compliments, your compliment has to trigger or expose desire. 

The goal is to release a feeling somehow, whether it’s yours or hers. 

You can say something along the lines of: “Your dress is so beautiful, it makes me want to hug you. Do you want a hug?

Notice how this compliment exposes your desire to hug her and also encourages her to come over and hug you? This is what flirting is supposed to do. 

You’re not flirting right if, at the end of it all, no desire is exposed or explored. 

They have to make the recipient feel good

All compliments have to make the recipients feel good. 

Instead of creating an unhealthy sense of awareness, it should make the person see that they truly matter. 

It should make them feel like they’re very pretty and deserving. 

At the end of the day, flirting should make everyone feel good. 

Say something along the lines of: “You should smile more. Your smile is one of the most beautiful I have seen. I want to watch you smile.”

Read: From Hey to Bed: How to Bed Her Fast

3. The Delivery

The delivery of the compliment also really matters. 

Two people can say the same thing to a woman. But both of them will almost never trigger the same emotions. This is because one will very likely deliver the compliment better than the other person. 

No trade-like deliveries

Some guys make the mistake of taking compliments to be some kind of currency that should be exchanged. 

Like: “I will give you a compliment; give me something in return.”

I tell you what: it will not work. Flirting doesn’t work that way. It is such a turn off when you make it a trade. 

Flirt with her. Expect nothing in return. That is how you get everything from her. 


Women appreciate it when a confident man gives them compliments. 

They stop to think: “Heyyyy. If such a confident man could give me a compliment, he must really like me.”

When next you give a woman a compliment, don’t be afraid of anything. Hold your head high and offer that compliment. 


Touch is a good idea!

Have body contact with her when you deliver that compliment. 

It takes great skill to flirt with compliments. 

By Ubong

Ubong Johnson is a medic, writer, and editor whose writings explore the complexities of human interactions. He has been published on The Healing Muse, a journal by Upstate Medical University, Blood and Thunder, a journal from Oklahoma University Medical College, and other journals of humanities. Ubong lives in Lagos and is currently undergoing training as a behavioral psychologist.

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