WhatsApp is one of the very popular texting apps out there. It is where most conversations happen in a casual and relaxed setting. Guys need to develop the skill of engaging in fun, flirty banter that keeps the conversation flowing. When you get the hang of this, every message exchange will feel natural and enjoyable. In this article, I will show you how to flirt with girls on WhatsApp, from the first interaction to the one that brings you to meet her in real life.
1. Keep your first text short and witty
If you’re reading this, I am guessing it is too late for a first text. If, however, it is not, then you’re probably going to want to keep your first text short and witty. As a rule, you don’t want your first text to a woman on WhatsApp to be more than three sentences long.
You should introduce yourself with this first text and show her a bit of personality.
You can say something along the lines of: “Hey, I am the cute guy you met a few hours ago. I am here to brighten up your evening with my texts.”
My guess is she is going to laugh about this and open herself up to texting you more.
2. Get to know her
Of course, you do not want to skip certain steps. With flirting, there is not a thing as being too slow—as long as there is some tension.
You want to create tension by making sure you get to know her first.
Now, let’s think about what tension really is. Imagine you trying to tense a rubber band. You will need to pull both ends of that band to produce tension.
Works the same way with a woman. You will need to have a hold on her to pull her into being tense and attracted to you. You will need to have a hold on her to make her see you that way.
You get a hold of her by getting to know her more.
Every time someone gives us the chance to know them, they are giving us a hold of themselves. They’re opening themselves up to us.
Get her to tell you things about yourself by making yourself comfortable to talk to. Let her enjoy telling you about the little things. And then let her enjoy telling you about the big ones.
Be open to listening and be opening to asking questions. Initially, the best way to flirt with a woman on WhatsApp is to ask a lot of questions. Just be sure to not make it seem like an interview.
3. Create a routine
When you initially begin to text someone, it is great to make texting some kind of routine. Especially on a social media app like WhatsApp, which people tend to use a lot.
You should text her more at certain times during the day so that she subconsciously knows to expect your texting sessions around that time.
The best time to text is usually around 7 p.m. or maybe later in the evening, such that you are the last thing on her mind before she falls asleep.
Whichever time you choose, make it a routine. Let it be on her mind that such moments are moments you and her share.
Women may act like they don’t like routines. And sometimes they don’t. But when a routine promises an emotional response, they are usually all in for it.
4. Be confident
Is it possible for one to show confidence even when one is texting? Of course, yes, it is. A woman can tell a confident guy from someone who is not by just texting him for a few minutes.
Flirt with her by being as confident as you can be.
Confident guys will almost always exhibit the following traits:
- They will be unwilling to please: don’t try to please her too much. There will be times when she tries to make you please her or buy her over. Don’t fall into the trap of doing this.
- They don’t sulk for her attention: confident guys know not to sulk for a woman’s attention no matter how attractive this woman is. Seriously, don’t double-text her. Except you really do have to, and I don’t think you will need to, ever, don’t ask her why she is taking too long to respond to your messages. Just be you and do you.
- They know to keep bragging away: when you are flirting with a woman on WhatsApp, don’t fall into that trap of bragging. Trust me, you do not want to be there. Bragging will mess up what you have going faster than anything else.
- They are assertive; women love assertiveness: A woman will pick an assertive guy over one who may not be assertive over and over. In fact, women often describe assertiveness as one of the most sexy features a man could have.
5. Tell stories
No matter how you look at it, in the initial phase of flirting, that is to say, a day to a week after you begin to actively talk to a woman, you will need to tell more stories.
Flirt with her by telling her the most beautiful and amazing stories you can tell.
Tell these stories about yourself and your experiences, but be sure, as we have mentioned earlier, to not brag about anything.
A good story will often:
- Tell her some new stuff about you: yes, women know a lot about men by the stories they tell. You may not be out there telling her; hey, you should know this about me. But trust me, she would be able to tell the kind of man you are from the stories you tell if you tell them well.
- Make her feel something; the main purpose of flirting, whether you are flirting in real life or are flirting on WhatsApp, is to feel something. Flirting with her with the help of storytelling is supposed to make her feel something. If she does feel something, then it is working.
- A good story will also make her feel like she’s supposed to do better. The truth is, you can always make a woman feel like the boring one. Many guys don’t know this but you can make a woman look at herself and go: “Well, I might just be boring.” This will make her try to dominate by texting you more and showing you that she is not really a boring woman. This works nicely if you ask me. It shows that flirting is working. As a rule of thumb, when a woman begins to put the effort, no matter how small, into impressing you, it shows that her attraction levels are off the roof.
6. Send voice notes
Voice notes are a great way to flirt, but be careful not to take the leap into sending voice notes when you have not begunto text a lot. At least good enough for you both to say you have a rapport.
Women save calls and voice notes for men they are “close” to.
When you have noticed that a woman is being receptive to your texts, respond in ways that suggest she is actually open to talking to you on a more personal basis and send voice notes.
Your voice notes should not be too long. The longest can be around one minute. You should speak properly, with a masculine timbre in your voice. This keeps things very tense.
Remember that women like it when guys have deep voices and speak in a clear way that suggests assertiveness.
7. Send pictures
You can flirt by sending pictures. But be sure that there are pictures that tell a story. Women, in my experience, like to see pictures. They like to see what you’ve been up to and hold a picture of you in their heads.
Pictures can also go a long way in telling a woman about your personality. For example, if you send pictures of yourself on safari trips, the woman you are talking to will go, “Hey, this must be such a nice guy who is also adventurous.”
Giving a woman something to think about is the best approach to flirting. If you can stay on her mind, you will make it to her bed.
8. Calls
You really should call her more. As flirting advances on WhatsApp, it should come to mirror what happens in real life. You should call her in the late evenings and in the early mornings when your voice is still deep and attractive.
Along the line, you can switch to video calls.
We will put up an article about calls soon, where we talk about calls as a separate technique for flirting.
9. Take breaks
Pull back sometimes. Don’t just spend all your time texting her. Sometimes, take breaks and get on with your work, giving her space to miss you.
Take breaks when things are high: the best time to take a break is at the height of a high.
10. Be Yourself
Flirting is an amazing thing when you know how to do it.
