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How to fix a sexually bored man

by | Love

Apr 14, 2024

Yes, even men can be bored of sex. It happens far more often than we imagine, and many women are quick to dismiss signs of boredom from a man as him being far from them or as him seeking a reason to cheat. This is not the case a lot of the time. Men get sexually bored for many reasons, and an understanding of this boredom goes a long way to help fix it. In this article, I will be helping you fix a sexually bored man without trying too hard or wearing yourself out.

1. It’s not necessarily your fault

A man’s being bored sexually is not necessarily your fault. I mean, a man may be bored for a couple of reasons that are not even sexual. 

I like to say that our sex lives do not exist in isolation from our physical and emotional lives. 

If your man is sexually bored, I bet it is not your fault. It has just happened. Save yourself from playing the blame game and look for ways to fix this boredom. 

Try to observe how the boredom drives him to respond to sex. Men who are sexually bored respond to sex in an unhealthy way. They may outrightly reject all sexual advances or have sex out of responsibility. It’s not something they enjoy. It’s something that should be done. 

How does your man respond? Write it down in a book. It will be helpful. 

2. He is pressured: take some pressure off his shoulders

If he responds to sexual advances by pushing you away, then you should know it’s unlikely that the sexual boredom has a sexual origin. 

It suggests that he is just tired. Worn out by something or someone. A lot of men are under intense pressure to keep their partners and families running in good shape. This pressure is able to cripple sexual desire. 

It is able to make a man feel like sex is something that isn’t that needful. 

This is especially true with men who are with spouses who tend to challenge their sexual drive.

Take the pressure off his shoulders. Have him know that you are by his side and don’t like that he is pressuring himself too hard to see you and your family stable. 

Give him room to enjoy himself and his life, and gradually, you will find that the sexual impulses are returning. 

Read: Signs he doesn’t want you sexually

3. Take the kids away 

Kids can make one bored sexually, I promise you. 

This is why couples who have just had kids may struggle with sex more than their single counterparts. 

Imagine a scenario where every sexual episode is cut short by kids who come running in and out of the room, who don’t stop banging doors. 

The truth is, your man is going to get bored sexually. When next you try to engage him in sex, he is going to go: “Oh, God. Not again.”

Why? He knows the kids will disturb you both again. He knows it is of no use trying to have sex. 

The best you can do is seek a babysitter for your kids. Someone who can look after them when you are away. This may be the only fix. 

4. Get your body back

This is especially true if you have just given birth and are resuming sexual activities again. 

Your man might feel bored: not because he does not like you, but because he is not used to your new body and may not find it so attractive. 

This is also true about women who have gained a lot of weight all of a sudden.  

Getting your body back is going to fix almost every seemingly bored man. It is going to create in him a ravaging interest. Especially if your new body is very sexy.

Sometimes, just the commitment to get your sexy look back fixes the sexually bored man. I have heard men say things like: “I just needed to know she wanted her body back. That was all. It is the effort that really matters sometimes.”

5.Go on a vacation

Vacations are great and can fix a lot of things, even a sexually bored man. Go on a vacation someplace far away and have as much fun as you can there. 

You can and should visit one of the clubs or bars in this new place and have a few drinks so that you both feel tipsy and can go on to have spontaneous sex

When trying to fix sexual boredom in a man or a woman, spontaneous sex is usually the best bet. If you are going to perform traditional sex, you should make sure it is different and that more kinks than you usually would are explored. 

6. Get closer to him: be feminine 

Be his lover again. You both may have been fighting all along. Here is the time to keep all of that behind you and bond all over. 

Be his friend again. Be his lover, too. Exude that feminine grace that has him longing for you. Remember that men are masculine and long for the polar opposites of their energy. They long for the feminine in bed and usually tend to love feminine women very much. 

Get close to him again. Nurture and care for his needs, and remember that sexual pleasure is one of his needs as a man. Have sex with him, not as a chore, but as a means to make your man happy whilst he protects you. 

7. Explore your kinks

As often as possible, which should be every single time you both have sex, you should explore each other’s kinks. Don’t be ashamed to talk about them. 

They should be adventurous. Explore together as a couple. 

Fixing a sexually bored man is as easy as attracting him to you again. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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