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How to Finger a Girl | 10 Best Fingering Techniques

by | Sensual Intimacy

Apr 29, 2023

Your woman’s sexual satisfaction, really, is not up for debate. To sexually satisfy a woman and ensure she truly enjoys sex with you, you also have to learn how to finger her. This means you have to be open to exploring her body more with your tongue, your lips, and even your fingers. In this article, we show you how to bring her to your knees with just your fingers.

Here are expert tips on fingering techniques to enhance intimacy and satisfaction in your sexual experiences. Here is how to finger a girl.

1. Trim Your Nails

Uncomfortable, we know, but trimming your nails is but a small price to pay. Your nails are very brittle and sometimes sharp. This can hurt her even when you never want to. 

I know a number of women who have been scratched badly along their vulvas because their partners insisted on fingering them without trimmed nails. 

Pan Coco told us: “It hurt. I wouldn’t lie. I didn’t enjoy the fingering, and I didn’t enjoy the sex. His fingernails fucked it up.”

Trim your nails also because long nails will do more than just hurt her. They could also expose her to pathogens. 

You see, the microbiology behind it is not so complex. Dirt is usually buried underneath nail beds. Even when you don’t see it, chances are, there’s some dirt. 

There are usually colonies of bacteria in this dirt. A family of bacteria called Enterobacteriaceae is usually seen in the nails; they stick there after touching or scrubbing your butt. You can pick them up without knowing because they exist around there, without causing any problems. 

However, they cause damage when they find their way around the vagina and are indicated in urinary tract infections. That topic is beyond this article. We will talk more about it soon as we go deep into her; you can finger a girl.

Read: 10 Sexiest Fun Games to Play in Bed and Out

2. Wash Your Hands

I have discussed the possibility of getting an infection from fingering your girl. 

Whether or not you have long nails, wash your hands properly before you finger your woman. 

3. Set the Mood Right

A lot of guys don’t know that fingering is real sex and that there is a mood for it. You shouldn’t just go in and begin to finger a girl without setting the mood. 

Set the mood right. This means getting her to be very comfortable mentally and physically before you finger her. 

Play some sensual music. Or get some sensual movie playing in the background. Flirt with her. Lean into her body and offer her a smile. 

Pull her lower lip with your index finger. Tell her she is such a beautiful woman. In no time, she is going to start getting her hopes up, mentally preparing to enjoy the sex. 

4. Make Out

Great sex and, of course, great fingering will have to come just after an amazing make-out session. 

She wants you to kiss her. Play around her mouth with your lips and with your tongue. Be sure that your hands are playing across her body. 

If she isn’t naked yet, help undress her. Undressing a woman is an art. If you do it right, she’ll be dripping wet before the panties are off. 

This has happened to me a couple of times. 

Read: 10 Best Moves to Make Her Sexually Desire You

5. Rub her Inner Thighs

Her inner thighs are quite sensitive to touch. 

She wants you to touch them. And do so gently. Rub the skin with your palm in circular movements. 

Depending on the mood and, of course, the temperature, you may want to rub some oil on them. 

You shouldn’t rub her thighs with oil if the weather is hot. Or if the humidity is so high, there may be a chance that you both sweat. 

Oil works well in cold or when there is some dryness in the air. 

You can also kiss her inner thighs. Be sure that you are making this something fun. 

Sex isn’t something that you should be too serious about. You sure can laugh over a comment like: “Your thighs are so big and beautiful.”

6. Rub Her Vulva

Her vulva is the outside part of her genitalia you can see. It looks like two vertical lips. 

Those lips are innervated by up to 8,000 nerve endings. 

Rubbing them is going to pull your name out of her mouth, make her jerk, and send a wave of pleasure down her legs so that she shakes them involuntarily. 

Rub at them carefully, gently pulling. 

You can use the tip of your index finger to line the entrance of her vagina. That would feel softer to touch, warmer too, and a bit wetter. 

Read: How to Have The Best Sex Ever

7. Play With Her Clit

Many guys have quite a problem locating the clit when they finger a woman. That shouldn’t be an issue for you. 

Just look slightly above her vulva. You should be able to see something that looks like a small knob. That’s her lit. 

Flick it. I can assure you it’s going to make her feel a lot of things. 

Play with it between the ball of your thumb and your index finger. Lean over and look at her when you do this, and smile. 

8. Tease

Pause for a while. That is, don’t touch her for a couple of seconds until she begs you to continue. 

This is to build tension. 

Women have a hate-love relationship with guys who know how to tease them. 

When she says: “Put it back in.”, you know you have gotten a hold of her. 

Tease her. Let her know you are in control. 

9. Push Your Finger In And Fondle

Push your finger into her vagina and fondle. 

Move your hands in circular movements, making sure that your hand is in contact with her walls. 

Women like contact with the walls of their vaginas; this is why they love big penises. 

Read: How to Make a Girl Think About You

10. Play Around

Be yourself. Do your thing. Stay in places she responds to with loud moans. Avoid places you can tell hurt her.

Summary

Fingering a girl is one thing you have to learn. It allows you to pleasure your partner and make your sexual encounters more fulfilling.

By Martin Corden

Martin Corden is a certified relationship expert and a songwriter from Australia. He loves researching and writing. Martin loves finding new ways to improve and inspires others to be their best version and work together towards it. Martin has a wide range of intellectual and artistic interests.

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