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How to Bring Out Her Wild Side

by | Love

Mar 9, 2023

Blake broke up with his girlfriend weeks ago. Before then, he hadn’t known her to have a wild side or be the wild, free woman he was now watching on a friend’s Instagram story. His relationship with her had been bland and uninteresting. To him, she was a good girl with good (Maybe a little too good) beliefs. Sex was the same old routine. 

Now, as he watches her dancing, moving this way and that on another man’s groin, he questions himself. “Why was she never this way with me?’ 

Blake’s story is a common one. A lot of guys never see the wild side of their women until these women become exes. 

You don’t have to be that guy. It is sad to be him. You can enjoy your woman’s wild moments every single day you spend with her. 

Her is how you bring out her wild side every single day you spend with her in your relationship.

1. Be a Wild Man Too

Women often relate with by adapting to what these men do. If you give off a good guy vibe without ever letting your woman see that you are capable of being wild and freaky, she is going to adapt to this good side. 

So, as often as you can, show her you can be the bad guy—the wild guy. 

Embrace your own wildness, and she will definitely embrace hers. 

2. Talk to Her about Sex

Guys like Blake are just too careful around their women. This carefulness suffocates any bad side left in these women to show. So they hide it, only letting it out when the carefulness is gone. 

Don’t be like Blake. Be open about talking about sex with your woman. 

Play fun games in bed. We made a list of 10 sex games you may want to check out

3. Don’t be Insecure

I asked three men on Twitter why they fought against their women being free enough to show wildness, and all three of them agreed that it made them feel insecure. 

“If a woman shows her wild side,” J said (He didn’t permit us to use his real name.), “I get insecure that she is going to eventually cheat on me. A woman who embraces her sexuality will cheat.”

Of course, this is not even close to the truth. It is almost the opposite of the truth! 

A woman will be even more inclined to cheat if she is not allowed to be herself, to embrace her feminity and sexuality. 

Don’t feel insecure. Let her be. 

4. Don’t Criticize the Small Forms of Wildness She Shows

Before a woman lets go and decides to show a man her wild side is not worth it, believe me, she must have tried to show up but got slammed for it. 

When I first started dating my fiancé, she tried to twerk for me a couple of times. But I criticized her for it. 

“You can’t twerk to save your own life,” I said. 

It has been months since that evening, but she still won’t twerk when I am around her. 

If you want her to show you her wild sides, don’t criticize her for it. 

Read: Face-Time Sex: 10 Tips & Ways to Have Sex During a Video Call

5. Praise the Littlest Display of Wildness

If you really mean business about seeing your woman’s wild side, then you have to be willing to praise her whenever she shows it to you. 

For example, let’s say your partner gets a new pair of jeans that raise her butt really high and wears it in front of you. 

You should, instead of criticizing it, praise her for looking good and sexy. 

Learn to praise your woman’s sexiness. 

6. Go Out More

And not only to fancy restaurants. Go out to bars and nightclubs as well. 

This is especially if your girlfriend is young. 

Going out to these places gives her room to feel as though she has truly lived. A girl who doesn’t have these experiences will feel choked and will eventually leave you. 

Elena, a 24-year-old college student, said: “I left my ex because of how choked he made me feel. I really couldn’t be myself, and it was hard. It is hard being with someone who can’t let up be you.”

7. Have Just the Right Amount of Sex

You shouldn’t be the nice guy who fails to initiate sex with his woman because he fears she doesn’t want to have sex with him. 

You’re only succeeding in doing one thing: push that woman away. 

Any woman who says yes to being in a sexual relationship with you is most likely very attracted to you. 

This means she wants to have sex with you as often as possible, and you shouldn’t deny her that. 

Don’t be afraid of initiating sex with her. {Read: 10 Secret Hotspots in Women Every Man Should Know}

8. Have Wild Sex

When sex becomes a routine, your woman will react in one of two ways:

– Complain about how bland sex has become. 

– Settle into the routine and eventually lose attraction for you. 

So, break the routine. 

Have wild and weird sex as often as you can. 

We wrote an article about wild things to try in bed. You may want to check that out too. 

9. Read Erotica

Reading erotica with your woman is a very healthy practice. You should do so as often as you can. Maybe even watch movies that get you in the mood together. 

The goal of all this is to demystify sex so that sex and its associated wildness do not feel foreign or weird to either you or your partner. 

10. Be Confident

Being a confident man can raise your woman’s attraction toward you significantly. This is why I suggested that you strip away all your insecurities and show her how confident you can be. 

Approach life confidently, and she will most definitely let you lead her in love and in life.

When a woman is able to be her wild self, the true woman she ought to be, you will enjoy her more— both in bed and in life. 

Read: The Strangest and Wildest Sex Acts to Add to Your Bucket List

Final Thoughts

Helping your partner tap into her adventurous side can be a fun and fulfilling experience for both of you. By being attentive to these suggested ways and creating a safe space for exploration, you can encourage your partner to explore new experiences and discover new aspects of herself, leading to a stronger and more intimate relationship.

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By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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