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How to be the bad guy and the good guy at the same time

by | Love

May 8, 2024

The most valuable men are men who know how to be bad guys and good guys at the same time. These men will get almost all the women they go after. And should they come after your woman, then I’m sorry, I have bad news for you. They’ll get her. This is because men who know how to be bad guys and good guys at the same time have the ability to trigger a very primitive instinct in a woman. They trigger two primitive instincts actually. The first is the instinct to have sex.  And the second is the instinct to submit. In this article, we show you how to be a good guy and a bad guy at the same time. 

1. Love women

In the red-pilled communities, there is an unsaid notion that one has to dislike or be a jerk to women if one is ever to be with many women. 

This is not true. 

The true masters of the game of love, don’t hate the game. In fact, they love the game and love the players as well.

This is because deep down they know that winning will involve taking advantage of the game and also taking advantage of the player’s weaknesses. 

You don’t have to hate women. You just have to understand their nature, and understanding their nature is going to drive you to love them.

2. Embrace your sexual nature

The major difference between bad guys and good guys is the fact the bad guys have come to truly embrace their sexual nature. 

If you ever feel the desire to suppress your need for sex in order to make a woman pleased or accepting of you, then you’re a good guy. Scratch that; you’re a nice guy.

Nice guys are not always good guys. You should not confuse the two. 

Embracing your sexual nature is going to stimulate the woman to embrace her sexual nature as well. 

Sex is a normal human response to desire, and desire is often mirrored. 

If you’re able to desire something enough and show that thing how much you desire it, then chances are it’s going to desire you as well.  

Embrace your sexual desire. Show the woman how much you want her sexually. If she wants you enough, she may even see this as a compliment. 

3. Be a protector

All good guys are protectors. 

We all seek safety. There is none of us who seeks to be harmed. 

This is especially true about women. 

Women want to feel protected. They want to feel like they are in no immediate physical or emotional danger. A man who is able to make a woman feel protected is going to be the best man the woman ever meets. 

As much as the bad guy seeks sexual intimacy, the good guy also seeks to place a woman in a position of comfort and stability. 

Protect her, protect her from everything. 

Protect her from you. Do this by making sure you don’t have any emotional outbursts around her. 

Protect her from herself. There is a notion that women are not very safe, even around themselves because women are largely emotional, and they make choices based on the emotional response.  

Keep her from making those emotional choices. Be there for her as a stable ground, as one who explores life more logically, seeking answers and providing results. 

Protect her from other men. Men who may want to hit on her or who may want to abuse her in any way, whether physically or mentally or even emotionally. 

Read: The Three Categories a Woman Uses to Assess Men

4. Don’t stop flirting

This is usually how it goes: a man meets a woman he likes. He speaks to her and gets her very interested in him. It’s a smooth relationship in the first few weeks to months. Then, all of a sudden, desire falls away. 

Why do you think it usually happens this way?

Well, because the man stopped flirting with his woman. 

He became too good for her. And I mean too good in a bad way. Women are always in constant desire for nastiness. They want a man who is not scared to flirt with them even after he may have gotten them. 

So be the man who doesn’t back down. Be the man who continues to do the things he did even before the woman became his lover. 

What you should never stop doing is triggering negative emotions in her every now and then. 

This is not to say you should make it a point of duty to annoy your woman. 

You should just take advantage of emotions like jealousy. 

A woman wants to feel jealous. In fact, jealousy should be a man’s highest compliment from a woman. When a woman feels jealous that other women are around you, she indirectly says that you’re good enough for other women to desire. 

She’s going to feel the need to protect you from them, and as a result, your relationship is going to deepen even further. She is going to have such a strong sexual desire towards you. 

Be sure to take her on dates as well. Never stop taking your woman on dates.  

She wants to go on dates with you. That’s the truth. She loves it. She loves the idea of being around you, so give her that opportunity.

5. Never show desperation

While you may have to show jealousy every now and then, you never have to show desperation. 

Desperation is deep-seated insecurity. 

Bad guys never feel secure. And even if they do, they never really show it. 

So while being the good guy who protects your woman from other men, be the bad guy who never shows desperation. 

Read: How to Climb Up in Her List

6. Fuck her good

Women love men who know how to fuck. 

You should not be scared to fuck your woman at any time.  

Fuck Her good. And fuck her like you mean it. 

Be the good guy and the bad at the same time. 

By QuietYearning Editors

The QuietYearning Team covers everything from relationships to lifestyle to parenting and more. Its team of experts provides in-depth analysis that helps you understand complex topics on relationships.

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