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10 tips for women to be good in bed

by | Sensual Intimacy

May 19, 2024

No one really talks about the need for women to be good in bed. And if they do, they don’t really hammer on it much. But the truth is that even women have to be good in bed, too. The better a woman is in bed, the more satisfied she and her man are. In this article, our editors show you how to be good in bed as a woman. 

1. Savor every feeling

Women who are great in bed are women who know how to savor their own pleasurable feelings. 

You don’t have to stand against your feeling of pleasure for any reason, in any way, whether mentally or emotionally. 

Make sure you enjoy what is happening. And make sure you try to climb up the pleasure scale. 

Sex should feel like an ever-increasing ascent into pleasure. It might plateau at some point, and this should be during or after an orgasm. 

2. Moan

Men like women who are very expressive, and expressiveness is such an important metric when discussing sex that is great and sex that is not. 

If you want to be great in bed as a woman, try moaning more. 

This does not suggest that you fake your moans or something. In fact, it suggests the opposite. 

Moans because you feel what you are feeling very deeply. Because you want your man to know he is doing so well in taking you into zones of pleasure. 

Read: How to Tell a Guy You Want to Make Love

3. Seek his pleasure as a means to find yours

Your partner’s pleasure should be yours if you are trying to get better at sex as a woman. 

This is how I have always explored sex. Sex is only considered pleasurable for me if my partner feels a lot of pleasure, too. 

Prioritize your partner’s pleasure. Make him feel like you want him to be in places he has never been. 

His pleasure doesn’t always have to be physical. With sex, pleasure can also exist emotionally. 

Emotional pleasure usually happens with men when you find a way to stroke their egos. Ego, for a man, is like the dick of his mind. If you can stoke it just rightly, and make him feel so masculine he tries to get you closer to him, then you will sure make him feel a lot of pleasure and he is going to be even more aroused by you. 

4.  Touch his other zones

Our genitals aren’t the only zones on our bodies that feel a lot of pleasure. There are other zones that, in addition to our genitals, can make us feel very heightened forms of pleasure. 

For many men, the nipples do the job. 

Many men agree that gently stroking their nipples is usually able to make them feel a very marked sense of pleasure. 

Others admit that nipple stroking made them cum faster. 

For others, just rubbing their balls can do the trick. 

Whilst with yet some others, the line between the balls and the ass is such a great place to stroke. 

It’s like a small ridge of skin, just in case you haven’t seen what it looks like before. This small ridge has thousands of nerve endings and can be truly satisfying to touch. 

Stroke it hard, and stroke it well enough. And the man is going to feel so much pleasure. 

Read: The Five Types of Sex

5. Talk; tell him you love him

Sex should not be a competition or silence. I do not even think sex should be silent. Ubong has a theory that silent bedrooms are dead bedrooms. 

I believe this is true. 

Imagine couples who have sex without talking, moaning, or even grunting. Couples who just lay there and let their partners do what they do. 

These couples are often very bored with the sex and can’t wait to get it over with.

Become a better woman in bed by adding spice and life to the bedroom. 

Talk. What do you say? Anything. Say the most nasty things. Say the most beautiful things, too. Tell him how much you love him and how he makes you feel. 

6. Take a break; be attentive too when he wants to take one

A woman who expects too much from her man in bed usually makes a bad sexual encounter. The truth is, sex is not a man’s job. It is not the man’s responsibility to make sex feel amazing. 

It is also not the woman’s. It is a joint thing. And when a man and a woman come to see it as such, they have better sex and experience better forms of intimacy. 

To become a better woman in bed, pay attention to when your man needs a break. And allow him to have one. 

When you notice, for example, that his erection is getting weaker, that may be his body’s way of asking for a break. Give that break to him. 

If you notice that he is beginning to breathe very fast, then you can take that break as well. In our article, “When to Take a Break in Bed,” we explore why a break is helpful and when taking breaks is indeed helpful. 

7. Close your eyes if you have to: It helps with the anxiety

High levels of anxiety can make a sexual encounter very weird. 

If you notice that you are being too anxious, then close your eyes. This is going to go a long way to help. 

Read: 10 Dirty Texts to Make Him Hard

8. Encourage him to use lube when you get sore

Don’t be the woman who hates lube. Who just wants to prove that she can be wet enough. Don’t be like that. Instead, encourage your man to use lube when he feels you are getting too dry. 

This is going to help him and you, both, since there is going to be a marked reduction in friction and, overall, pain. 

9. Throw your arse back

In the doggy position, in which you learn how to get right, you should learn to throw your arse back. 

A lot of women don’t know how to get the doggy position right. We’ll show you how to in a short article. 

10. Be yourself

Now, don’t try too hard. Just what you think will bring your partner the most pleasure. 

The woman who is great in bed must be one who pays attention. 

By QuietYearning Editors

The QuietYearning Team covers everything from relationships to lifestyle to parenting and more. Its team of experts provides in-depth analysis that helps you understand complex topics on relationships.

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