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How to Be a Dominant Male

by | Love

Dec 2, 2023

The most dominant men get the most submissive girlfriends. And guess what? They don’t just get them to spread their legs and climb atop a bed. They get these women to put on their best attributes as well as try to please them. The good news is that it is not so difficult to be a dominant male. You only have to change a couple of things about yourself, and boom, you become very attractive to women. 

Here are five nuggets that can turn you into a dominant man.

1. Talk Less

You have got to do this one for sure. Look around, and I can promise you this: every dominant male you see out there does not talk much, especially about himself. 

If you are familiar with the Game of Thrones series, then you should be familiar with one of its most epic lines: “A man who says he is king is really no king. “

Women consider a man who talks a lot nothing close to being a king. 

You may go around asserting how much of a king you are and how women want to be in bed with you. But know this for a fact: no woman is going to want to bed you when all you do is talk. 

Talk less. Leave the talking to her. This is not to say that women are talkative. Of course not. But the bitter truth is this: women are more interested in having conversations than men are. 

A man should be focused on his work instead of being focused on how to talk to a woman. 

Let your interactions with her be few but deep, especially during texting. Don’t vive into the temptation to text her long paragraphs and essays. 

Don’t do that, man. It doesn’t work. It works only when she is your English Professor. But this woman is not your English Professor. She is a woman you want to get down with and dominate. 

You should dominate her without having to talk. 

Only use texts to set up a date. You don’t have to know her over texts if she lives in your area. 

You should do this by setting up a date. 

Read: 10 Ways to Satisfy a Woman in Bed

2. Disapprove of Some of the Things She Does

Show me a man who is scared to disapprove of things his woman does, and I will show you one who has become the submissive one in his relationship—One that women are surely going to take advantage of and use without even looking back. 

You may feel like women are not the ones to take advantage of a man. But know this for a fact: women are ruthless. And they should be. It’s the way men are taught to be better men. 

A woman will often punish a man who has refused to be a man by punishing him. She is going to punish you for sure if you slip up. 

So, knowing this, don’t be scared to disapprove. 

Don’t be scared to let her know something she has done upsets you. 

She may act like she is in the right. But here is the thing, as I will tell you in the following paragraphs, that reaction is a very common one we see all the time.

It is called shit-testing, and women use it to separate the actually dominant men from the ones who are just acting dominant. 

Don’t argue with her. Just say what you have got to say, and if things get heated, you can reduce the tension by cracking a joke. This is where men who have a lot of humor get it right. 

The humor works because it helps said man pass all the woman’s shit tests. 

Read: Top 10 Traits of a High-Value Man

3. Pass Her Shit Tests

Women like to test men. Many times, they don’t even realize that is what they are doing. 

It is a subconscious thing, but on a confounding level, it lets them see which man is an actually dominant man. 

Any chap can see a couple of YouTube videos and begin to act dominant. Women use tests to blow their cover. 

For example, a woman can say stuff like;

– Your shirt doesn’t fit your body nicely. 

A man who is not dominant is going to grow soft and begin to defend himself. He may say something along the lines of:

– But my shirt isn’t so big. I promise I like it. 

Immediately, this happens; the woman is able to tell she is dealing with something of a beta male. 

She is not going to want anything to do with you. 

You respond as a dominant male by saying:

– Good thing you’re here. You can help me shop for a better one, yeah?

She immediately sees that she is on the losing side of the game and, as such, enters a submissive role. 

This is how you maintain your frame. Not by arguing but by being very smart and tactical. 

Read: 10 Signs of a Feminine Man

4. Ask for Opinions But Make a Choice

A dominant man isn’t going to wait for his woman to make decisions for him. 

I know this for a fact because I have been on both ends of the spectrum. 

That is to say, I have been both a dominant male and a man who let women ride over him. 

Don’t ask her to choose where the date happens. Choose yourself. 

Don’t ask her to choose your clothing. Choose hers. 

Be the one all the choices focus on. Don’t be the guy to depend on someone. 

Read: How to Improve the Tone of Your Voice

5. Don’t Control

To dominate is not to control. The man who controls does so by fear. The one who dominates, on the other hand, does so by commanding love and respect. 

She has got to love and respect you. 

If she doesn’t, you are just being controlling. And sooner or later, things are going to backfire really bad. 

I know this for a fact because I have been there before. 

Don’t be driven by jealousy. Just dominate. 

The dominant men get the best girlfriends.  

By Ubong

Ubong Johnson is a medic, writer, and editor whose writings explore the complexities of human interactions. He has been published on The Healing Muse, a journal by Upstate Medical University, Blood and Thunder, a journal from Oklahoma University Medical College, and other journals of humanities. Ubong lives in Lagos and is currently undergoing training as a behavioral psychologist.

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