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How Do You Know You Love Him: 10 Signs You’re in Love

by | Love

Sep 29, 2022

There is a boy now, and even though the relationship between you both is not yet defined, you feel something quite intense towards him. You want to know if this feeling is love. If you relate to this, keep reading because, in this article, we will answer the question: “How do you know you love him.”

Here are 10 signs that you love him.

1. He meets your standard of what attractive is

The first real sign that you just might be in love is that a guy checks all your boxes for what attractive should be. 

When you consider a man attractive, there is almost always going to be this pull, some below-the-surface tension that rises when you spend time with him or see his pictures. 

It just means your mind checks him out as safe, and what you feel may just be your body checking him out as well. While love is a feeling, it is quite biological. 

If our bodies suggest that we long after someone, then it is love. 

2. You are fine with spending a lot of time around him

We only want to spend time around people we admire, people our minds and bodies have ticked as safe. 

So, if you find yourself being totally comfortable with spending time with a guy, then it just might be that you love him. This is especially true if you spend these moments doing fun stuff and being yourself, laughing, and making jokes. 

If you agree that you have told him: “Thank you for making my day.” More than thrice in the space of two weeks, then you love him. You wouldn’t spend that much time with someone you consider attractive without some emotional attachment beaming to the surface. 

Read: 10 Signs Someone Is In Love With You Based On Body Language Alone

3. You don’t mind ditching your friends just to be with him

If you do this, then it indicates one thing: for the time being, he has become a priority to you. His company means a little more than the company of your friends.

You love your friends, don’t you? 

This means that you love him as well, maybe even more than you love your friends, seeing that romantic relationships often have a lot more intensity than platonic ones. 

A good way to know you are ditching your friends to be with him is if they complain about it. Sometimes, a lot of times at that, we ditch our friends when in love unconsciously. 

4. You know you love him if you talk about him a lot

If you find that he pops up in your conversations too often, then you should realize one thing: he is on your mind. And guess what it means when someone is constantly on your mind? It means you are in love with him. 

Love has a way of triggering our subconscious, making it quite active so that even though we may not be putting any effort into it, we keep thinking about our crushes and imagining being around them. 

Read: 10 Proven Signs You’re Falling in Love

5. You adopt his mannerisms and lingo

This usually happens when we spend a lot of time with someone. Basically, it just shows that we really do like that person—so much a part of us begins to think and act and even speak like them. 

This is exactly what bonding is. When we bond with someone, we usually tweak ourselves in the process so that we start to do things they love and may even pass on our own attributes to them. 

A bonus point: if you find that he is adopting your mannerisms as well as your lingo, that is a strong sign that he just might love you too. 

6. You are fine with initiating contact

When you’re in love with a guy, you are going to miss him quite a lot. And this will mean your ego is going to become way less or maybe even non-existent around him.

Also, you will have no problems texting him ‘just to check up when he is not around you for extended periods.’

Just so know, when you love a guy, there are going to be a lot of messages along the lines of: “Hey, I just wanted to check up on you.” 

7. You love him if you offer to help a Lot

When you love a guy, you are going to prioritize his comfort. This suggests that you will become very observant of him, paying attention to the little things that can very easily be overlooked. 

When he comes around looking stressed, you are going to probe most times into what is making him look that way. And when he does tell you, you’ll offer to help.

The more willing you are to go out of your way just so a person can feel comfortable, the more you love them. We only go out of our way for people we love. 

Read: 10 Signs He Loves You by His Kiss

8. You are becoming possessive

When it comes to love, many of us are quite monogamous. This shows up the moment we fall for someone. We find that we start to crave them more and in a more selfish manner—the healthy kind of selfish anyway. 

We don’t want them flirting with anyone other than us. We want to know why they aren’t responding to our texts on time and why they were out of town without telling us first. 

Basically, we begin to enter that role we enter into when we are in a romantic relationship. 

9. You know you love him when there is a lot of flirting

You definitely love him if you are fine with flirting with him for extended periods. This is especially true if there is much body contact. Maybe a kiss happened once, or a tender touch that made you feel something really deep. 

10. You have fantasized about having sex with him


We all fall for a guy at some point or the other. Usually, the farther we are willing to go just so he stays comfortable, is how much we love him. But knowing exactly what we feel for him can prove to be the tricky part. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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