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How to Tell Him How I Feel (8 Actionable Tips)

by | Meeting People, Moving On

May 14, 2021

Telling a guy how you feel about him can require some amount of subtlety so as not to get a negative response. When done right, he won’t only admire your courage, but he will even go on to respect you more.

You recently met a guy, or both of you have known each other for a while​ now. You would like to pour out your feelings to him and take it to the next level so you both can be more than just friends. You are sure that he feels the same way about you, but just that he is just too scared or shy to make a move and ask you out.

So you wonder if it might be a good idea for you to make the first move. You can tell him how you feel by flirting with him and asking him out on a date, writing him handwritten letters, making direct eye contact, and teasing him gently while flirting.

Before we go into more details on how to tell him how you feel, be honest about how you think he feels because unanswered love is the most painful and is likely the most significant reason you’ve withdrawn from letting him know how you feel. If he says he doesn’t feel the same way about you, you’ll definitely feel crushed. 

It will be best if you have a pretty good idea of how he will react or prepare your mind to be indifferent to how he responds. There is no way you can control how he’ll react. Here, we bring you 8 ways to convey your feelings to him.

1. Make direct eye contact and smile

It seems like a no-brainer, but men catch these suggestive cues. When you make direct eye contact with him, you prove you’re into him. With a smile, you’re saying you like being with him, and you enjoy his company. 

If he reciprocates your feelings, he will stare and smile at you in return. The trick to getting him to like you here will be to focus on your body language since it often reveals what you need more than words. With your smiles and facial expressions, he will instinctively feel that you have feelings of affection for him and strive for a relationship.

2. Tell him how you feel

You can open up to him when you’re together. Start with the phrase, “I am beginning to like you more every day.” Or, “I really like your kind of person, and I want us to spend more time together.” “Do you think the same way about me?” This is a great way to show that you like a person. Telling him in person gives you the benefit of hearing their response or seeing their reaction right away. 

When you ask him if he thinks the same way about you, you get to find out the answer right then and there at that very moment. And if he responds positively, then you tell him what you want. If you want a relationship or want to go out on a date, tell him straight up.

He may fancy the idea that you like him, but it could also happen that he doesn’t like you back. In that case, it’s important he doesn’t hold your feelings hostage. You get your answer there, and you can move on.

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3. Ask him out on a date

Suppose he agrees to go on a date with you, good. That’s the first win for you. Most likely, he’ll say yes to that. Then the next thing is to assume he’s going to say yes when you tell him how you feel. Focus on why he would agree to date a girl like you and all the possible fun you’ll have together. This will raise your confidence levels when you tell him how you feel about him.

Express exactly how you feel and what you want without holding back. Trust me; he will immediately appreciate your courage and honesty because it’s uncommon for ladies to take the first step. You will also feel amazing for fearlessly opening up like that.

Try not to be attached to the outcome. If a guy agrees to your request, that’s super awesome; if he says no, no stress. It’s just a minor setback. Know that you will continue to slay regardless of his answer.

4. Write him handwritten letters

If you like it old school, craft and send him handwritten letters. It’s the simplest way to express your feelings to him, especially if you are nervous or a bit shy. This style of telling someone how you feel about them is rare these days. He will appreciate the creativity, the effort, and the fact that you write it with your own handwriting. 

5. Direct Compliments

When you flirt with him, tell him you enjoy being with him and that he is a great listener. Telling him how amazing his eyes are or how handsome he looks in his dress, you bring your acquaintance to an intimate level.

Direct compliments are an effective way to escape the friend zone phase and successfully tell him you like him. Such compliments are also a sign of sincere love, and he may fall in love with you too and ultimately become your steadfast friend.

If you compliment him while flirting, he will understand this signal correctly. This shows him that you like him and that you have feelings for him.

6. Show Vulnerability

Vulnerability is when you willingly do not hide your feelings and emotions from others regardless of what they might think of you. We only make ourselves vulnerable to people who are important to us. So this is a great way to show him that you really like him. Confide in him and talk openly about your fears, worries, and failures in life. 

7. Ask through friends

In case you know his friends, then you can use this as an advantage. Friends can be of great help and also a source of information. They can fill you in on more info whether the guy you’re admiring has been thinking a lot about you, too. Friends can act as a matchmaker and connect you guys. So don’t be afraid to seek their help or advice.

8. Tell him something personal about you

Tell him something personal about you that not very many people do not know. This shows you trust him, and you’re looking to start a long-term relationship with him. In turn, he will trust you too and start to reciprocate your feelings in the same way. It will make the both of you close and even create a great bond.

Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash

By Sara Leandro

Sara Leandro is a certified health coach who helps others feel their best through individualized lifestyle changes that meet their unique needs and health goals. She covers topics ranging from health and productivity to relationships.

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