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Cowgirl Style Position

by | Sensual Intimacy

Apr 27, 2024

The cowgirl positions are some of the most variant sex positions ever. There are so many variants I barely know where to start. In this article, we spice things up real good in your bedroom by showing you some cowgirl positions that make sex amazing. Be sure to try them out and not hold back.

1. The Classic Cowgirl

The classic cowgirl position is one everyone knows. The man lays down flat on his back and the woman is atop him, like a cowgirl who is riding a horse. It is an intimate position and very perfect for guys who have small dicks because the woman’s vagina is quite open. 

The classic cowgirl can be done with legs very far apart or legs closer, each achieving its own function. When the legs are far apart, the strokes are deeper and comparatively better. 

The classic cowgirl has around four variants. These include:

The neck sling

Ever seen a horse rider? She holds on to the rope of her horse (the rein) as she rides the horse. This keeps her stable. The Neck Sling variant of the classic cowgirl works the same way. Only this time, the man’s neck is the sling. She puts her hands under his neck and raises it a bit. It should be just a bit so one does not elicit pain. 

The neck sling is best for couples who may be trying out BDSM for the first time. It really is an amazing sex position. 

The hands behind cowgirl

This is another rather sexual variant of the classic cowgirl position. It is very sexy and gives room for more movements. 

It is also pretty easy to enter into. All you have to do is get into the regular cowgirl position and put your hands behind you atop the bed. This is going to make you lean backward, opening up your vagina area so that your man easily touches it if he wants to. 

This position is best for caressing. It is also such a great position when the man doesn’t want to do any work. Let’s say, when he gets off a busy day at work but insists on having sex. You do the work for him, and he lies there enjoying himself. 

Read: Bathtub Sex Guide

The standing classic

Here, the woman has her feet flat atop the bed. She does not have her thighs on the bed. 

This is a perfect position to feel the thrusting of your man. Standing feet flat on the bed is going to create some space between your body and his, such that his strokes feel and go deeper. 

The standing classic is best when the man wants to join in on the game, when he wants to join you on the ride. 

To make things a little easier in this position, it is best you try it out on a sofa, the reason being that it is a rather difficult position and can illicit tension in your thighs. 

If there is no sofa around, it helps to place a pillow under your man’s waist. 

The wall support

This is your regular kind of cowgirl position, only that the woman supports herself by placing both her hands on the wall. This is best done during the standing classic, because placing your hand on the wall distributes the pressure you may feel on your thighs. You have some support, after all. 

It is best done on bed, when your bed is close to a wall.

If your woman is unable to do the cowgirl position with you for long periods, chances are, she is dealing with pain. She may not say it. But you should be able to figure it out and suggest that she put her hand on the wall. 

2. The Reverse Cowgirl Position

The reverse cowgirl position is just the classic cowgirl style position but with your woman facing the other way. It is a far less intimate position anyway, since there is going to be no eye contact. But it is intense. I recommend it for couples who are dealing with performance anxiety or people who may be having a one-night stand. 

To get into the reverse cowgirl position, the man lays on his back. The woman climbs him, facing the other way. 

It is important that you take precautions when doing the reverse cowgirl because it is rather dangerous. Research shows that most penile fractures happen when one is doing the reverse cowgirl.

There are many variants of the reverse cowgirl, but I am particularly interested in two:

The reverse flat cowgirl

Not many women can do this because of the demand it places on one’s thighs and one’s core muscles. But the few who can will swear it provides some of the best feelings ever. 

In the reverse flat cowgirl, you enter the normal cowgirl position but lean forward to lay down almost flat on your tummy. This is going to angle your man’s penis in a way that touches your G spot with every stroke. 

Feels good. But be careful to not flex too hard and too suddenly, so that your man doesn’t have injuries. 

Read: Doggy Style Position

The standing reverse

This is just like the normal standing cowgirl position. I will argue that it feels a lot more intense anyway like one is being pulled out of their body. Men admit it is the best position when having sex with someone they may not see again. 

3. The Bathroom Cowgirl

This is a perfect position for couples who are trying bathroom sex for the first time. The man sits on the toilet seat, and the woman sits in front of him. The result is an almost perfect alignment of their genitalia. 

Every stroke bangs. Every stroke carries with it a special kind of intensity. The bathroom cowgirl is also really reliving. There is no pressure on the thighs or shoulder. 


The cowgirl and its variants make sex very beautiful. They offer room for more sensations. A yes for me and for millions of people out there. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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