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Considering Adoption: 5 Ways To Prepare Yourself

by | Parenting

Jun 17, 2020

Both parents and children can experience the feeling of satisfaction that adoption brings. That is why we bring you the factors to consider and ways you can prepare yourself when considering adoption.

Natalya, a 54-year-old woman, expressed such joy after completing the adoption process for Sönke, who she met during a charity she had volunteered for. Initially, the process was quite very strenuous for her, but it became rewarding for her in the end. Hence, if you are thinking about adoption, you need to prepare. 

Adoption is when one assumes legal responsibility for a child that is not biologically theirs. After completing the adoption process, the adoptive parents become the child’s legal parents. 

There’s no legal difference between an adopted child and one born into the family. Are you or your family considering adoption? What are the factors to have in mind when considering adoption? Above all, how do you know if you’re qualified to adopt a child?

Standards for adoption differ from country to country. We outline some common rules that can guide you through the process. 

  • Having a disability is not a barrier when adopting, provided you can care for the child.
  • All you need is having your own space and being able to provide and care for the child as he grows up.
  • You can adopt even if you already have children. It is also possible to adopt more than one child at a time.
  • You must be over 21 years of age. Although, there is no upper age limit to adoption. Meanwhile, you must be willing to make the necessary adjustment to care for a child’s needs.
  • Whatever race or ethnic background you are from, you can still adopt.
  • Single persons are eligible to adopt.
  • Even if you have a low-income job, you can still adopt a child. Some countries assist in the form of benefits to families and individuals who meet their standards.
  • Your sexual orientation doesn’t matter if you want to adopt a child.
  • The authorities will analyze your situation if you have a criminal record. If your crime is sexually related or involves a minor, you will be not be allowed to adopt a child.

Types of adoption 

There are many ways to adopt a child into your family. But the three most common ways of adoption are: 

  • Domestic infant adoption
  • Foster care adoption
  • International adoption

Each of these types has its specific requirement and procedures. Similarly, each has its own set of advantages and disadvantages. 

Should You Adopt Or Not

Adopting a child is not easy, so you shouldn’t be haste when considering adoption. Children inherit the genes of their birth parents. In other words, they take the characteristics of their parents. 

Children can have a very close resemblance to their parents, which can be surprising to some parents. It will be difficult to guess a baby’s mental and emotional capacity if you don’t know Its parents. 

Prepare yourself mentally as you consider adoption. Below are some questions to help you evaluate how prepared you are: 

  • Do you place a high value on academic goals?
  • If so, how will you feel if your adopted child does not meet your standards?
  • Would you find a mentally or physically disabled child a problem with which you could cope?

Trained personnel at adoption agencies or government social workers can help examine your level of commitment. Their most important concern must be for the security and happiness of the child. 

5 Ways To Prepare Yourself When Considering Adoption 

1. Move on from Grief and Fertility

All children in the family deserve love and emotion, likewise an adopted child. If you have lost a baby, it may be best to wait to get over the trauma before deciding about adopting. 

Furthermore, couples or individuals who are infertile also need to take some time to overcome the grieve before reaching a conclusion about adoption. 

Talking with infertility or a marriage counselor can help you overcome the grieve and make the full commitment to adoption. 

2. Have an Adoption Plan

You and your spouse must agree with your decision to adopt. This entails knowing which process you want and whom you are going to adopt. 

Since there are different ways to adopt a child, you need to know the type you are interested in. Speaking with an adoption specialist will help you and your spouse understand the adoption plan better. Your aim is to be able to make a choice that is suitable for your situation. 

3. Prepare Your Finances

There are costs you must prepare for during the adoption process. For example, medical, legal, and travel expenses are part of the cost you must bear. 

You don’t have to be wealthy to adopt a child. But it is essential you can provide a secure and stable home for the child. Research your options and compare the costs to see which option is best for you. 

Apart from the cost of adoption, you need to be financially stable. Raising children is expensive; you should check your budget to see if you or your family is financially ready to pursue adoption 

4. Be Ready to Put the Child First

Adoption is a process to provide for children first. This is important because you have to love an adopted child the same way you do a biological child

Further, it is an amazing way to realize your dreams of becoming a parent and sharing your life with a child. You have to be sure that you are ready to love and accept an adopted child as your own. Regardless of where they came from biologically. 

5. Commitment

Adopting a child requires commitment. The adoption procedures can be long, complex, and difficult sometimes. Completing a home study, waiting for a match, and meeting potential birth parents can be immense. 

However, you should be excited about taking steps to become a family. Do your research and contact an adoption professional for more information as you are considering adoption. 

Make sure you are comfortable with the process as you begin your adoption journey. 

Bottom Line

As you consider adopting, openly communicate with your spouse or your family. Discuss every part of the adoption process and requirements. Besides, be considerate of the feelings of others that will be involved in the process.

Adoption has its challenges and frustrations. However, it is a rewarding journey for you as a parent, and that makes it all worth it. 

By Daniels Nanna

Nanna Daniels is a legal practitioner and writer. His practice as a lawyer and a writer is as diverse as his client base. His client ranges from government bodies to banks, private companies in real estate, energy companies, telecommunications to small businesses, families, and individuals. He is a passionate and diligent analyst of family, sports and business concepts, providing in-depth knowledge and analysis. He has covered topics ranging from family, parenting to entrepreneurship.

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