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10 Causes of Sore Vagina After Sex 

by | Health & Wellness

May 6, 2024

A number of women feel sore after sex. This is often not a serious health concern. It just feels uncomfortable and raises a lot of questions. In this article, I will be answering a number of these questions, showing you reasons why your vagina might feel sore after sex.

1. Your vagina isn’t as stretchy as you wish

Whilst the vagina is an elastic organ that stretches, the ability to stretch differs from person to person.

Just the way there are big penises, there are small vaginas

You may be sore because your vagina is smaller than you want it to be. This is especially true if you feel sore after having sex with someone who seems to have a bigger penis than what you are used to. 

2. Your toys have ragged surfaces

Anything you put in your vagina has the potential to hurt it and make you feel sore. 

So, you may have to take another look at your toys. Especially if you use toys during foreplay. 

Take good care of your toys too. Do not keep them on surfaces that can scratch and cause dents on them.  

3. Your partner has long nails

If your partner has long nails, you may feel sore after sex. 

I don’t think I need to explain why. Nails are brittle and sharp and can hurt. One nick and they can hurt very bad. 

It is safe for your partner to trim their nails. Trimming nails goes beyond being physically safe alone. It is also safe for your vagina. 

Your vagina is supposed to be a sterile part of your body. This means that nothing harboring germs should be allowed to go into it. 

Fingernails contain a lot of germs and can infect the vagina or cause UTIs.

Read: Best Oils to Use as Lubricant & Alternatives to Avoid

4. Condom allergies

Condom allergies are a thing. Latex condoms are made of material that has the potential to trigger one’s immune response. This immune response is mounted, and one of the key features of inflammation is pain.

Many condom allergy situations are described as pain. But sometimes, it is more than just being a pain. There are cases where it is a burning sensation that lasts for long after the sex has ended. 

Kira told us that she usually feels a burning sensation during and after sex whenever her man uses a condom. 

If you are unsure whether or not you have a condom allergy, try having sex without a condom once. But make sure this is someone you trust, someone you know will not give you any allergies. 

5. A health condition

With many women, health conditions are able to cause pain during sex. This is usually described as a sharp pain or a dull pain in the pelvic area. 

Some of the most common causes of pain in bed are pelvic inflammatory diseases or any other diseases that cause pelvic obstruction or inflammation. 

Talk to your doctor about any changes in your menstrual cycle, and describe this pain to him. More often than not, your doctor is going to prescribe some medication to help you. 

6. Reaction to spermicides and lubricants

Spermicides are often creams or sprays that are put into the vagina and can help prevent pregnancy should the condom break. Sadly, some women react to spermicides as well. 

If you notice that you have that feeling of soreness whenever you have sex using a spermicide, it may be time to stop. 

Lubricants are not left out. Especially oil-based ones. They are able to erode condoms, too, and can make a woman feel sore. 

Note that many times soreness is just your body’s response to damage to some surface cells. 

7. You’re not wet enough

If you are not wet enough during sex, you may feel sore. This is especially true if the sex had started when you didn’t even get wet enough. 

Many women have concerns about vaginal dryness. Some of these concerns can be fixed without ever visiting a hospital. All one needs do is have some changes mentally and physically, and one is good to go. 

We will be discussing some of these changes in subsequent articles. Look out for the article called: “How to Stop My Vagina from Feeling Sore.”

8. The AC may be the culprit

If you are having sex rather close to the AC, the AC may be the culprit, too. Air conditioning removes moisture from the air, cooling it so that one feels less hot. 

The AC may be removing the needed moisture around your vagina and making you dry up too easily. 

Fans may also be the culprit too. 

I used to have sex around a fan once. I noticed that anytime I had sex that close to the fan, my partner complained about feeling sore. 

Read: How to make the vagina tighter

9. You’re having sex on your period

It is true that sex during one’s period can be more lubricated. But this is a rather paradoxical lubricant. 

You see, blood has the potential to clot. And when blood clots, it becomes rather sticky and able to produce a lot of friction.  

It is this friction that makes sex hurt. 

Stop having sex when you are on your period for a while and see if there are any real-time changes. 

10. The sex is too intense and lasts too long

If sex is too intense and lasts too long, it is likely going to make one feel very sore. 

At best, sex should last not more than an hour. At worst, it should not last more than an hour and thirty minutes. 

The man ought to pay attention to how his woman feels during sex, too, so that he does not make her sore faster than she should be. 

As I will be showing in subsequent articles, it helps when men are more attentive to their women during sex. 

Summary

Many times, a woman may feel sore for reasons that are merely mechanical. One does not need to be too worried, and if they are, seeing a doctor is a great idea. 

By QuietYearning Editors

The QuietYearning Team covers everything from relationships to lifestyle to parenting and more. Its team of experts provides in-depth analysis that helps you understand complex topics on relationships.

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