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5 Signs He Wants to Be Your Boyfriend

by | Love

May 21, 2024

It is sometimes hard to tell what a man wants. Does he want a relationship? A situationship? What exactly? In this article, we show you five signs that he actually wants to be your boyfriend, one who loves you so genuinely. 

1. He wants to hang out with you all the time

One of the big signs that a guy wants to be your man is that he wants to hang out with you a lot. 

Guys are really drawn to women they like. This makes them want to have these women around. 

If he has asked you to come on a date with him more than twice a week, then he may be feeling you so much and trying to be in a relationship. 

One of the ways to tell if his wanting to spend time with you is actually genuine is if he is going on a pace that makes you comfortable. 

Guys who want to be your boyfriend are typically going to be more attentive than guys who don’t. 

They will seldom want to push you past your comfort zone. And if this should happen, they will be sensitive enough to retrace. They will make you feel safer again. 

2. He is loyal

Yes. There are times when guys are loyal in their talking stages, long before a relationship has been established, and loyalty is expected to bloom. 

If you notice that a guy is already loyal to you, he may be trying to make you his girlfriend. 

Here are some subtle signs that he is expressing loyalty already:

  1. He talks to only you: at least in the moments you spend time with him. He is never on his phone and never tries to respond to any messages. If you have ever had to tell him: “Won’t you take that call?” there is such a big chance that he is trying to project loyalty to you. He may not be loyal enough to stay away from other women just yet. But the mere fact that he is trying is enough to show you he might want to be your man. 
  2. He never mentions other women: if a man makes an effort to not mention other women in your interaction with him, then he is already showing you signs of loyalty. He is already showing you that he is the guy for you. I would say that when a guy makes an effort to avoid other women in conversations with a woman he is on a date with, then it is such a big green flag.
  3. His relationship status changes on Facebook: there are times when men take it a step further, even though it’s already too early, and change their relationship status on Facebook. Some do this as a means to pull the woman in more, and it works. Others just do it because they mean it. Either way, it is a big sign of loyalty and maybe a pointer that this man wants to be in a relationship with you. He wants to be your boyfriend. 

Read: How to Tell Someone You’re Not Interested Without Hurting Them

3. He explores his past relationship through you

Let’s say you ask him about his ex. Or why the relationship failed. 

In a man who is very interested in being your boyfriend, you may notice that he will explore the past relationship in something that seems like a side-by-side comparison. 

He will explore the relationship based on his interaction with you. 

He can say something along the lines of:

“She was really nothing like you. I think you’re a lot better. She didn’t sound or smile like you do.”

This is such a big sign that he is already starting to see you as a potential partner. 

This is why it is so important to ask a man what his past relationships felt like. In every talking stage you get into, ask a man what made his past relationships fail. 

You will learn a lot about that man. But most of all, you will learn about his ability to be accountable. A man who is always blaming the failure of his past relationships on his spouses, a man who was always the good guy whilst the others were just attempts to hurt him, isn’t going to be a lot of good to you. 

He lacks the ability to be accountable for his actions and so will not be accountable to you. 

4. He is showing jealousy already

A man who is showing jealousy already likes you. 

Men are great at hiding their affection but very bad at hiding their jealousy, especially if they are already loyal to you. 

It may be subtle jealousy that goes unnoticed, but it will be there.  

It’ll show up in questions like:

“That guy must really care about you, yes?”

Or something like: “Well. You must really trust that guy to have been so free around him.”

Both of these are not exactly questions. They’re baits. They’re a man’s way of trying to find out what a guy means to you. 

If you tell him that guy was your brother or cousin, you will see the relief on his face. 

You should note, however, that while jealousy is often a good thing, too much jealousy too early on in the relationship is such a big red flag. It may be a pointer towards the fact that a man may be controlling in the end. 

Read: 10 Texts to Make Him Chase You

5. He tells you, subtly

He may tell you that he wants to be your boyfriend. But he is sure of one thing: he will not tell you directly. The question will come in the form of rhetorical questions, witty remarks, or just mere jokes. But, for sure, he will tell you. 

He may say something like: “Imagine having someone like you as my girlfriend. You may kill me with all your craziness.”

Notice how this statement may make you laugh but passes a message you shouldn’t miss.

A man who wants to be your boyfriend will make it clear in some way. 

By Martin Corden

Martin Corden is a certified relationship expert and a songwriter from Australia. He loves researching and writing. Martin loves finding new ways to improve and inspires others to be their best version and work together towards it. Martin has a wide range of intellectual and artistic interests.

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